Is it normal that my dad doesn't let me go to work while grounded?

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Ok, rather stupid question and I kind of already know this is not normal but thought I'd ask anyways...I have a military dad who is not the nicest person (to put it nicely) and when I was growing up he would use lots of military style punishments on my brothers and I like hold your arms up, do lots of situps, stand on your tiptoes and just stupid stuff like that. Then my parents separated 5 years ago and he moved out but very recently they got back together and he moved back in and started making me do all those stupid military punishments again (in the meantime my brothers have moved out to college)...So this Friday night I got caught sneaking out while being grounded and as a result he told me I have to spend the entire weekend "standing on the wall", which basically means you stand at attention with your nose on a wall in the living room and you can only leave to go to the bathroom, eat or do homework (and he's checking that you're actually doing homework). So I ended up doing that all day Saturday but then I realized I have to work on Sunday (I just turned 17 and got a job at Hollister 3 weeks ago) so I tried telling him but he started yelling that work is for responsible people, that I only have myself to blame if I get fired and that no I cannot go to work and must stand on the wall all day on Sunday.

So is this normal (I'd guess not) and also what the heck do I do now? I think Hollister is a decent place to work and even though it's stupid that they make you wear flip flops when there's snow outside I'd really not want to get fired. Should I call Sunday morning to make up an excuse for not going and what would be a good excuse? Please answer especially if you worked in places like Hollister, Abercrombie etc. and know how things work there...Thx!!

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago | pl

    Tell your dad to go fuck himself.

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  • Johnnytherat
    11 years ago | pl

    kick him in the balls then say "RESPECT MA AUTHORITAH!"

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    You're Dad is a fucking idiot for knowingly making you violate a work contract and for making it difficult for your employer to keep you employed. That is a terrible thing to do to someone in this economy.

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  • salem32600
    11 years ago

    Honestly, I would try to respectfully ask your dad if you could discuss the situation. Take ownership of your mistake and acknowledge some specific reasons why sneaking out was irresponsible. Then try to appeal to his loyal, devoted, responsible nature (that all servicemen have). Explain that you feel that if he disallows you to go to work, you feel that he is reinforcing irresponsible actions. The best way to learn responsibility, is to ber thrust upon it. 17 idsa a little old to refuse to embrace responsibility. Good luck. Do NOT make up an excuse. If anything, BE HONEST with Hollister. At very least (even if you list your job) you are showing your employer, family, friends, and (most importantly) yourself that you have integrity and that no matter what, you will always he honest. Which by the way, honesty if a key ingredient on responsibility.

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  • Beast70
    11 years ago

    No fuck your dad are crappy ass government turn into a fucking idiot military minded dick tell him to eat a dick

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  • whatdoyoumeannormal
    11 years ago

    call work, tell them what happened and that you are truly sorry about it. probably they'll give you some emotional support and not blame you. dont know what to do about your dad tho.. stand up to him I think is the only way to be free.

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  • sisterlover
    11 years ago

    does your dad touch you down there. its ok. Its normal for family members to touch each other. My sister is so mmmmmm

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  • poon__jabber
    9 years ago

    did you tell your mom about this?

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Your dad sounds like a real jerk! It's weird whenever I hear about these type of so called military dads because my dad is a retired Army Lieutenant Colonel, ex Special Forces, served two tours in Vietnam, has two college degrees and never once has he perpetuated kinda weirdness on my sister or myself. I think it's less about the military and more about your father being a control freak, bully, possible has been or even a wannabe that probably doesn't have anything else going for him.

    If it's okay, I'm curious to know if he's an alcoholic and or has he ever physically abused your mother, brothers or yourself? He sounds really fucked up. Just study hard, get into college, continue to study hard, get a good job and then cuts ties with him.

    Hey, if he ever needs a kidney you know what to do! Tell him no!

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I think kids these days need more Diserprin! This should be normal.

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  • sweetcheeks21
    11 years ago

    Get your mum to talk to your dad! Tell him
    Your learning to be more responsible and independent and you need to work, your 17, tell him you could get fired and really need to go and promise not to underestimate his authority again.

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  • curiouskate101
    11 years ago

    lmfao someone took military alittle to far

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Your dad is a control freak. If you want to go to work then go. What's your dad gonna do? Beat you up if you move? That's crazy shit. Sounds like he's destined to end up in prison.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    What an ass... Okay, try to calmly sit down with your dad and mom to talk this over. Your mom can try to be a buffer or a voice of reason to his Fuckery. Calmly explain how you feel and own up to the mistakes you have made. Let him know how bad it would be if you violated your working contract and "negative words" got out about you and ruined your reputation. Tell him how hard it could make you get another job, etc. If the situation can't be changed: Call up the store you are working at and request to speak to the manager. Tell he/she the truth of the matter.

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