Is it normal that my dad does this?

Okay so my parents got a divorce a few years ago. Well I live with my dad and he does foster care. We have two teenage girls (I'm a girl by the way) and a four year old boy. Well I dont get along with the two girls at all. They purposly do things to make me mad and think they are better than everyone else in the world. Well anytime they do anything my dad always takes their sides no matter what, and if I say anything at all about them my dad will yell at me and act like I'm the worst person in the world. Is it normal for my dad to do this? he also does it with my real brothers, but most of the time I get yelled at. Ever since these two girls started living with us my life as literally been hell. Even when me and my dad aren't fighting he ends up getting mad at me for no reason at all. when me and my dad used to be really close and now I can't even talk to him about anything without it ending in a fight.
Is this normal behavior? and is there anything I can do to help it?

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17% Normal
Based on 54 votes (9 yes)
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  • intellectuallychallengedmaybe

    your father sounds ridiculous. he should always have your back first - you being his child. you have to realize that Child protective services usually come around and do audits of the foster kids' stay at the house to make sure there is no inappropriate activity going on. maybe your dad gets money for watching these girls, and if he makes them unhappy, they might tell the social worker, and the social worker will take the girls out of the home, and your dad will loose the money that he gets from the state for taking care of them ( if he gets money for taking care of them). this might be his motive for having their back instead of having you and your brother's backs. i dont know how old you are, but it sounds like you are in turmoil. make a plan, stick to it, move out and move on with your life. hope this helps.

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  • Dad

    It is somewhat normal.
    Your Dad is basically taking you for granted, you are his special and real daughter, but he feels he must make allowances and be a little more sensitive to the other 'foster teenage girls', because basically, they could leave if told off!
    You, on the other hand, are family. And therefore expected to put up with and make allowances yourself (still in his mind)

    You need to tell him (or even show him your post here) that treating you this way is wrong. If anything your Dad SHOULD be treating you better than anyone, and 'expect' the foster children should understand. Of which they will.

    Ask your Dad truthfully if you are still the single most important child in his life. Then tell him you don't feel like it. Ideally you should both spend some Dad daughter time together (only) on a regular basis (ie either an hour a day, or a whole day once a week, or both!)

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  • nicole

    maybe witn out a women he does not now how to talk or treat girls did he yell at u with ur mom maybe he is lonely

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    • topper33

      nicole i think you have something there.and a great ques.

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  • NaughtyCat

    Sorry honey, it sounds like he's shagging them.

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    • topper33

      yes i agree. he thinks way to much for them

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    • w014snk

      I know for a fact that, there is nothing sexual between my dad and the foster girls in the house. My dad is not like that in any way and would never over step boundaries like that.

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      • topper33

        oh ok then i guess you sgould talk to dad one on one and ask him the truth

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    • Mmmpfh

      Wait.
      If he was shagging them shouldn't that put in an amazingly good mood?

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      • NaughtyCat

        No, I think the guilt makes him irritable.

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        • Mmmpfh

          Oh ok!
          So its a battle between sex and guilt. An eternal struggle.

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