Is it normal that my dad acts this way? -emotional abuse?
When I was a lot younger, I was a daddy's girl. I loved my dad terribly, we did a lot of stuff together and we were pretty much inseperable. He was my best friend. But, within the past 2 years that's changed. It gets worse every day, more and more frequent. Everyday, my Father yells at me at least 3 times a day. Sometimes it can be for pointless reasons such as: Taking coffee with on a trip or not using real cheese because we don't have any for the nachos I prepared for him. (I had to use velveeta cheese.) Other times, I feel as if he takes what I do to a whole new level. I have a therapy dog so I take her wherever I go. Lately she has decided to refuse to get in our car. Backing up away from it even if I have a treat for her. I forgot to call the canine assistance helpline the other night. I'm busy with work and schoolwork. He forgets things all the time yet, when I told him I forgot he yelled me terribly. Telling me that all I do is piss and moan about problems but never do anything about them. He called me irresponsible and useless. Thats only one moment within tons of moments that he's done that. In October, I came upstairs asking him if he put anti virus software on my laptop, He's an IT guy, he fixes computers for a living. I thought he placed it on there since I am forbidden to put any programs on my laptop and every button I click is constantly watched and tracked by him. There's only certain times when doesn't watch me. After I asked him that his face turned red, he said no. Then my computer froze up and he asked me what I clicked on to cause this angrily. I told him I didn't click any signs or banners. He didn't believe me. I told him that over and over, he called me a liar, a bitch, and then punched me in the face shocking me because that was the first time he ever physically hurt me for non punishment reasons. (As a child he'd whip me if I did something wrong with a leather strip) Then as I laid crying in the corner he mimiced my crying, mocking me. He apologized after but not genuinely. As if It was just so i'd shut up. These type of incidents happen often. I already go to counseling for anorexia. one day my mother and my father decided to join in counseling with me. The entire time was surrounded on how to fix things. He claimed that he shouldn't have treated me so terribly, and that he should be more patient. But, as soon as we got home that hope of mine that I received from the counseling session disappeared. He screamed as I looked at my stomach in the mirror an hour later. The more stressed out I am the more I feel my low self esteem kicking in. My parents keep insisting that I stay for community college to save money. But, to be honest, I don't want to but, I'm also afraid not to stay for my bad financial situation with having to pay medical bills and take care of my therapy dog. So, using these few examples... Do you guys think I'm being emotionally abused by my father? Or is this just his way of being a teaching parent?