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Is it normal that my Colombian born and raised husband hates to do housework? He also does not like to do yard work etc..... What do I do to change this?
Oh my dear... You picked the wrong guy. In Colombia, men are providers. In Colombia, the housework is a "female issue". So, you can't expect that your husband be happy doing housework... You're lucky if you achieve at least the he make it. In Colombia, if a man lives alone, can contract a maid for $15 one day
So if you come up with a good answer I'd love to hear it i could use the ideas because I'm all out and ready to end things
My Bosnian bf of over five years says he wants the kind of marriage his parents have where all he is expected to do is take out the trash get snow off the car and cut the grass while his wife works a full time job and waits on him hand and foot I made him dry and put away dishes after I cleaned up after we ate and washed the dishes with the fight we had over it you would think I was trying to amputate one of his arms if I have to hear about how a woman's place is in the kitchen one more time he's going to be single really fast his thoughts were that we should leave all the dirty dishes and plates with food still on them on the table and his mom could clean it up before she leaves for work in the morning she leaves at 5:00am
More Hispanic cultures believe woman should be house wives bear foot & pregnant while they are out working.
Should have picked another race op. You picked the wrong kind of husband. Pick ones that know how to clean and do yardwork. Since your husband seems to be nothing but a slave to you. Maybe a nice pool boy while you at it.
"My Colombian husband hates to do housework". I love that title. Does he like making you coffee? What exactly does this have to do with where he is from? Are men all maids in Columbia?
What does Nationality have to do with either or not someone wants to work on the house?
He did none of these things growing up and for the most part always had a maid. Upper middle class families generally have a maid there. He gripes when I make noise on the weekends cooking and cleaning etc.. Almost like he thinks this stuff just gets up and cleans itself. I am trying to take on the load but we both work. I am just looking for ways to get him involved because I cannot afford a maid and even if I could it is not really how I was raised we like to do things ourselves in my family but my husband just dosent get it. He is a wonderful person and provider but I need an equal in this. I just wish I would come home one day and he would have dinner cooked howaminotmyself.
I do think this is a problem of privilege. People don't always learn how to do simple things if the always have someone doing it for them.
You need to sit down and talk to him about it. He will not realize it on his own. And do not do it when you are angry, or when it needs to be done.
I agree Parrish but it really seems to be cultural. He drives me crazy. It is like he try's to help but it dosent flow I have to ask him. He did not even know how to mow a lawn when we met and it is like touture for him to do this stuff. In his defense he does help with dishes before I get home from work on occasion. I just need to organize this stuff better. You are correct most people do not like to do these things but they do have to be done. I am just really trying to find some extra me time.
Did he have a lawn growing up? And did his parents make him do chores of this nature?
It isn't a cultural thing as much as it is a product of how you are raised. My husband hates housework because it was always a punishment for him. But certain types of work were his job regardless of his behavior, like taking out the trash. He would rather take out the trash than wash one glass. Dish duty meant he did something wrong, trash was just a part of life.
Lots of people don't like to do these things, no matter where they are from. Tell him what is what.