Is it normal that my brother is 19 and going after a 15 year old?

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My brother is 19 and he is really into this 15 year old girl. Is it normal that he is, because I think it's a little weird, and I'm worried he'd pressure her into sex and all, she's a sweet girl (known her a while, friends with her sister). I just don't think it's normal, I mean if she was 17 or 18 and he was like 20 or 21 it would make more sense, but he's leaving high school and she is just starting??

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I dont think the age differance is that weird. Most 19 year old boys are still less mature than a 15 year old girl.

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  • Bigmac69
    12 years ago

    Thats creepy straight up it cant be 'sweet 'in any way

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  • iEatZombies_
    12 years ago

    It's not appropriate for him to actually persue her. She's not ready for that and neither is he.

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  • dickwashington
    12 years ago

    they probably already had sex just sayin

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  • Couman
    12 years ago

    I don't see how any of us can meaningfully comment when all we know is their ages (and that she's a "sweet girl"). But since you actually know them and you still have doubts about your brother's intentions, perhaps that means something.

    Maybe you should talk to her (or her sister) and try to get feel for position on all this.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You realize that most successful marriages are with couples that the man is five years older or more than the female?

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    • seabird_71
      12 years ago

      The point is that she is only a 15 year old girl, a minor, and he is over the age of 18, he's 19. In the bigger picture, four years isn't that big of a deal, but when you are THAT young, you still have a lot of growing up to do and the time between 15 and 19 is a long time to grow up and become an adult, where as he already is one. I'm not judging anyone, I'm just trying to point out why it's different with a 15 and a 19 year old as compared to a 24 and 28 year old, for example. The acceptable age gap is not really applicable when you are talking about young girls and men over the age of 18. That's just how the law works.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        It depends. If the person isn't breaking any laws, then I don't see a problem with it. I've seen many people in such relationships.

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    • Avant-Garde
      12 years ago

      Would it depend on what country they are in? I take you're referring to the legal age in britain. I think it's 16? So, in britain would this be considered much of a big deal, especially since she is one year away from being 16?

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    That's creepy. Tell him that he needs to stop seeing her and if he tries something, then he could go to jail. What does everyone else think of this?

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    • seabird_71
      12 years ago

      I agree with you. And to be perfectly honest, I'm a little worriied that there are some people who are acting as if this is just some acceptable and casual thing, like it's not illegal or anything.

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      • shuggy-chan
        12 years ago

        well when i was a senior there was a freshmen girl that i really like and we when as far as kissing a few time, but i was too worried about "this" about what other people thought, so i broke it off, and i always regret it. I ran into her like a year and half afther i graduated. She had some personal problems in school and decided to drop out and then get her GED, and was saving up to move to NY, but we exchanged numbers and talked a lil (as friends cause she had a BF). Then my cell broke, i lost her number with the old one, and then i never heard from her again. And one day a year later, since i didnt even had a FB till after all this, i was a memorial for her... she had died like a month after i saw her again.

        so i still feel that maybe if i did things diffrently back then, maybe things be diffrent now.... =/

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    And..........

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  • WhiteOctober
    10 years ago

    Yes, I think that's absolutely normal. I'm a 15-year old girl myself and I'm into older guys as well. And then, he's only 19. That's still pretty young. I think if I'd be in her shoes I'd date your brother as well.

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  • Aberrant
    12 years ago

    I don't think it is normal. He should wait until they are both out of high school before pursuing her.

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  • Strength123
    12 years ago

    He is way to old for her! He's coming off as s predator. I'd definitely say something to him about that. Totally out of line.

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  • sac66064
    12 years ago

    Depending on what angle you are looking at this from determines whether it is "normal" or not. It is normal for your 19 year old brother to be attracted to 15 year old girls. Most would never admit this but pretty much every guy is like that at that age, i'm 30 now and when i was 19 I dug 15-16 year old girls. Having said that, it isn't normal for him to actually be chasing after her. You should tell him to knock that shit out and go for girls that are closer to his own age.

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