Is it normal that my brother has been a asshole since he was born?
My brother is one of the biggest assholes I know and he's been that way since he was born. He was a terribly annoying kid, and mom claims he's that way because she was stressed when she had him. He was always hitting the dog with a stick, pitching a fit when he lost a game, broke our CDs, fought with all the younger girls in our extended families (which caused rifts between our relatives), hit us and just plain annoyed the heck out of us. I remember my other brother and I locking him out of the room because we couldn't stand him. As the years went by, he became less violent but only changed slightly attitude-wise (though he still continued fighting with little girls). He became addicted to video games and was one of the biggest liars I've ever met. Know that he was older, my parents tried to get him to help around the house but to no avail. He pitched a fit whenever we asked him to do any little thing, like clean dishes or even his own. We fought all the time. So even though he was a little calmer as an older kid, he's now a teenager and has become almost unbearable. He has his moments where we actually act like everything's normal and we're friends, but then he goes around and causing some big fight with my parents over the stupidest things. For instance, today the dumbass left our house at night because my mother cut his hair too short and he was furious. He even threatened to hit my mother, but he just stormed out in a rage to go to a friend's house. To make matters worse, a police caught him wandering around and were questioning my mother, although he still refused to go home. He always does this, like cause huge fights over the stupidest things and he always threatens my mother or one of us. My parents have disciplined him but nothing seems to work, and no amount of talking will change him mind or open his mind to the fact that he's only hurting himself and his family. By this point it's turned into a chicken or egg thing, where my parents are so used to lecturing him that they always do, and because he feels so put down he goes around and does exactly what they don't like. The most horrible part is that I know he's a good kid, but he's so closed minded that he doesn't see that we do care. I always try to help his relationship with my parents. I always try to clean the mess, but I'm afraid that won't help either. And my parents are giving up on him after years and years of trying to be his parents, which is too sad to even think about. My mother says she wants to give up, but I hope she's not telling the truth..I hope. I'm afraid of what's going to happen to him. He's only 16 and it's gotten this bad. Where will he end up? I'm pretty sure he'll come back tonight, but I'm waiting for the day he doesn't come back, weather he ran away or was found dead. And if that happens, his family will still hurt, even after all the shit he did to us, even if we tried hard to make him understand that we love him.
Well, this is the first time I've done something like this, but I just needed to rant somewhere to someone who could give me answers...but anyways, thanks for reading.