Is it normal that my boyfriend won't let me post a selfie of myself?

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So I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half now and in the beginning we were great. He was so nice and treated me like a princess. But as the months went on he has been getting very controlling and not letting me post things on social media, not letting me be around other guys, and just keeping me in a cage it seems like. I have never given him a reason not to trust me and so I don't see why he needs to act like this. I'm hoping this is just a phase he is going through but I also feel that I am beginning to see his true colors. Maybe I am over reacting and I am being too stubborn and need to just listen to him but I would like to know how other people feel about the situation I am in.

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  • stopandthink
    9 years ago

    Everybody's jumping to the conclusion of your boyfriend being a potential abuser/puppeteer. I'll just say that not one of them knows him better than you do. Sure, be wary, but Bobby the Bear has put some points through.
    See if you can sit him down, try to see what he's on about. Don't blindly follow what they say, suss him out for yourself.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    From the information that you have given, it seems as if he is showing signs that are abusive and may lead to more extreme abuse. LEAVE HIM IMMEDIATELY and do not go back to him he will try and say "i'm sorry"and "I can change" don't go back stay the hell away from him. When you break up do it somewhere public so he can't hurt you, have a friend near by or a brother/parent.

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  • sunshine09
    9 years ago

    seriously. it will only get worse. Listen to what people tell you. Otherwise, your asking for it. I mean if you stay, you're an idiot and you can only blame yourself. Listen to his warning signs and red flags. GET OUT NOW!

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Leave him! It will only get progressively worse.

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    • BobbyTheBear
      9 years ago

      Or instead of jumping to conclusions. Look at both sides of every story. Maybe he has been cheated on by many different girls. Or maybe this is his/her 1st real relationship. Or maybe she is provocative in her selfies. Or he has had a fucked up childhood. Stop assuming. My advice as i guy who has been threw it time an time again. Just listen to him, if he has valid reasons for his insecurity then hear him out. But if he EVER puts hands on you leave him an never look back.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Better safe than sorry. All these hypotheticals you're proposing indicate a lot of baggage on his part.

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        • BobbyTheBear
          9 years ago

          Better safe than sorry? Read the last 2 sentences of my post.

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 years ago

            Hahaha... Okay Bobby.

            If some fool tried that shit with me he'd be history, cause Rosie don't play that. I don't have room for all that baggage in my life.

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      • jojo338955701
        9 years ago

        Um these are very strong signs of an abuser. She should get out of there BEFORE he lays hand on you.

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  • harddrystickysocks
    9 years ago

    Maybe you two should talk about it like adults... Have you even told him you feel this way? Or are you just complaining about it on here like an idiot. Sometimes people are not completely aware they are causing an issue because nobody confronts them about it. Anyways do whatever you want I don't care. Sometimes bad things happen to goodpeople. Those usually claiming to be good people are mostly bad people. I like watching people die in car aaccidents posted on the internet.

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  • CourtneyR
    9 years ago

    Thank you everyone!

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  • Farthead
    9 years ago

    You should post a selfie on here for further evaluation.

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  • Blue_Velvet
    9 years ago

    Sounds like a controlling boyfriend, watch out.

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  • pixie44
    9 years ago

    Ew, run!

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  • modernism
    9 years ago

    That's a red flag. In any relationship, romantic or not, it is NOT a good sign if they're controlling. He might say he's only trying to protect you or keep you safe, but what he's keeping you from is completely unreasonable.

    He seems to be keeping you isolated, so if you feel trapped, you probably are. Talk to him - but be light about it. Tell him that you don't appreciate him controlling you and that you're your own person. Tell him that he should trust you enough to let you talk to the people you want to (male or not) and post selfies.

    As long as you don't cross the obvious lines of cheating or anything like that, then posting selfies shouldn't be that big of a deal.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    He is NOT your lord and master; he should be an equal partner.
    Your pics, your social media, your life; not his to direct.
    Dump this stupid guy, things will only get worse.

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