Is it normal that my boyfriend wants to spend every minute together?

We've been together a year. 5 months in to the relationship, I had no place to live and he said I should move in to his/his mom's house. I was/am a broke student, so I did.

He wants to spend ALL of our time together. Sleeping, time at home, driving to work / doctor's appointments / errands, seeing each other's friends (never alone), doing work at coffee shops, etc.

Often at in social situations, I have a hard time enjoying myself because he very naturally tends to be the center of attention (like, all the time). He's witty, intelligent, has a lot of things to talk about, both personal and otherwise. And he's loud, and really upbeat, because he's at a great point in his life. No money troubles, his career seems to be taking off, and lots of our peers and colleagues respect him a lot. He isn't exactly a showoff, but the result is the same.

I feel like conversations are naturally sprinkled with him steamrolling everyone with knowledge. Sometimes I KNOW what he is saying is wrong or incomplete, but I don't get involved. Why? Because he will question/argue/disambiguate/ask questions until, at best, others in the vicinity think I merely had a minor point to add, and at worst, will awkwardly avoid acknowledging what I said because it seems like I'm starting a confrontation. I am not so anal that I want to correct him - it's just that otherwise he monopolizes conversation! And he always corrects me in front of others.

Mostly, the loud personality wouldn't bother me much if I was naturally an introvert. But I used to be like him, the center of every social interaction and a fountain of stories and knowledge and energy. It really GRINDS me down because I had a lot of hardships these last two years and I've gotten kind of dark and would LOVE if every conversation wasn't a grueling fact-check/squabble/powerplay. It's just exhausting.

So, I would like to at least socialize alone, but my bf seems confused and crestfallen whenever I want to go see a friend alone and I often have to reason with him or explain myself and usually I don't go. It's like our baseline is togetherness, thus EVERy time I want to be alone I need to explain.

Thoughts?

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Comments ( 11 )
  • Fall_leaves

    There's wanting to spend time with someone and then there's wanting to control the way someone spends their time. You need some breathing room, if he doesn't understand that then maybe he's not the right guy for you.

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  • Ellenna

    He's an egocenric manipulative control freak and he has you jumping through hoops. You do realise that every time you give in it reinforces his ownership stance? IF that's how you want to live the rest of your life, fine, but it sounds like an emotional prison to me and I'd be getting out of it if I were you

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  • RoseIsabella

    That sounds exhausting.

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  • FJK_frm_AK25

    He's smothering, u so tell him to back the fuck up and if he doesn't, jus distance urself til u can afford to move then go from there.

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  • Short4Words

    Isn't it obvious?

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  • Ihaveallquestions

    Do you still love him? That is the first question. It sounds that you have changed and so your feelings might have changed for him. If so then you just need to tell him. Say you are just doing something that you want to do yourself like going to get milk and he says that he is going to come with you, just tell him that you would like to go by your self and if he says that he should come with you or does something that dismisses you, even after you have clearly said that you would like to go alone, then tell him straight up that he needs to kinda back off. Tell him it is appreciated that he want to spends lots of time with you but you just need a little space every now and then. If he still insisted then just go, and when you come back just talk to him about it and just tell him all your feelings.

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  • bucho's_butt

    He actually sounds like kind of a douche. That's pretty much what I got from your post.

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  • LittleGirlGaggedAndRaped

    You are like a child living under his roof he takes care of everything and you answer to him. If you don't like it nobody is forcing you to stay with him, but maybe it's hard to let him go because hes providing a free ride for you and if you broke up with him some other girl would fill your position quickly and you dont like the thought of that so you choose to tolerate it.

    Well, do something about there's no since in complaining about it

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  • TightCancerKidsAssholes

    Maybe you two should fuck a sweet innocent little cancer kid in its tight asshole?

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    • BetterStandardsAtIIN

      Notice to OP. You can delete the previous off-topic comment by clicking "Hide". After you delete it you can delete my comment as well.

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      • Captain_Flatulitis

        I'm going to report all of your comments from now on because I feel you have no right to be censoring anyone from commenting exactly how they feel.

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