Is it normal that my boyfriend wants me to be sluttier?

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*warning: may be a long story.

So, recently my boyfriend of almost a year and half, were discussing the first time we masturbated to the thought of one another. I then asked him what exactly he thought about when he masturbated. Obviously me, but in what way did he imagine me? He replied with 'is it bad if i say slutty?' i told him it depended on what he meant by slutty. He further explained by basically describing a porn star. Sloppy bj's and begging for him to 'fuck me harder' . When i said it sounded like what he wished i was, he agreed. When i offered to change he rejects the proposal. Important very confused and slightly hurt. He pretty much masturbates to the though of another girl. i am not a porn star nor am i some slave you can control. what should i do? Let him have his way or express how i feel? (keep in mind he is a tad bit more sensitive than most guys and if info much as hint at being angry with him, he gets depressed or finds a way to turn the takes on me. *important=im very info=i takes=tables. My phone has terrible autocorrect and my screen won't allow me to see what important typing. I apologize for any errors i may have missed.)

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    He obviously likes you the way you are. Let him have his fantasy like Splashy said.

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  • Thatguy777
    11 years ago

    It is normal. He just wants you to be wild every now and then. It's not like he's thinking of another girl, he said he's thinking of you, but you should tell him how you feel about it if it truly upsets you instead of doing something you don't want to do.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    It doesn't mean he imagines a different woman, nor does that mean he wants you to dress more slutty. It's more like he wouldn't mind if you wore lingerie more often lol Every guy imagine shit like that. You screaming out like some cheap porn star.. Sad to say, but that's basically all they know. It's been tempered into them by... well.. watching porn. Atleast he thinks of you. Alot of girls have boyfriends who prefer to think of other people. Talking about fantasies is always dangerous ground to tread on though. I know 1st hand. His are pretty damn normal! He could have said he fantasizes about you with another girl!! Or even with his brother or something. I think you should consider opening up to his fantasies since they're so typical and harmless. I'm not sure if you two have sex or not, but you could still give wearing some lingerie for him a try while he jacks off or you guys do it. It would give him a real mental image of you. Long reply!! Sorry :P

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    • L3otheL1on
      11 years ago

      I have multiple outfits, he's got pictures, mental images shouldn't be a problem with him :P i think its mostly the word choice he used that bothered me, if he said 'could you be louder in bed?' or some other stuff along those lines, i would have been fine, but the whole 'screaming out like a cheap porn star' thing...the thought of it just makes me feel cheap, and if i tried it, id probably laugh. Not only would i be embarrassed, i would no longer be getting laid, and that's not okay Haha. Im not a good faker, of anything. If im gonna scream, i want it to be real, not something im forcing myself to feel, i want it to be enjoyable for bth of us :/

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      • ccjigsaw
        11 years ago

        Yeah, no point in faking. Sounds like you've got nothing to worry about anyways. It was probably one of those one time, shocking to hear but i'm over it kind of things, right? Lol Guys can be so lame sometimes.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    If he wants you to be a slut and you are not you do not need him. If he wants you to do something kinky for fun sex or role play well discuss it with him if you are comfortable or not.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    yes let him have his fantasy, do you have to know it?

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