Is it normal that my boyfriend touches me in my sleep?

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years now, I just turned 20 and he's 22. This is my first gay relationship, im bi, but none of my previous ones have worked out. Lately I haven't been that intimate with him because of my depression and we both work full time. When we first met we had no problem with our love life.

He's usually a very caring person so I was shocked when I woke up in the middle of the night to him touching me. He wouldn't even stop and I failed to stop him given the fact he's bigger than me and I was very aroused at that moment.
He went on for a while but stopped when he noticed he was starting to hurt me.

When it was all over I just layed there on our bed thinking it didn't really happen. I couldn't fall alseep after that.

It got worse at work on my lunch break I started crying in the bathroom for the whole 15 minutes of my break. I kept remember the times I was raped by my brothers best friend when I was 13, and I've told my boyfriend this. I got to go home early since I told my boss I'm not feeling well.

I did confront him about it when I got home but he told me to get over it and its not considered rape. But I even told him I felt violated and there was no chance for me to give consent. He just ended the argument with that I enjoyed it.
Now my depression has gotten worse and I feel like maybe he's right, its not the worse thing that's happened to me.

But I'm just really confused and really depressed, feel like life is just full of shit.