Is it normal that my boyfriend thinks i have a boring personality?

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So today, my boyfriend of 4 years and I were talking. Apparently, he think I've had a boring personality. He thinks that my looks are amazing, but that I lack the personality. He said that when we first met, and the first 3 months we started dating, that I had an amazing personality. After that though, he said that I started to "change". I guess I could see that because he kept bringing up my ex and yelling at me for things. I don't really know how to go back to the old me. I don't think I have a boring personality.... A lot of people think I'm pretty cool, nice, sweet, generous, and caring.... I try to lock myself up so he won't yell or get mad at me. Oh, this girl Michelle that he used to like back in '07 when he was a senior.... Well apparently, she has a better personality and is better than me. He wants me to be like her. It really breaks my heart that he said all of this because I'm trying not to get yelled at, but make him happy..... Oh, he also saw me about a month ago and today told me that he was bored when he was with me...... But when he was with me he was smiling..... I'm so confused and my heart breaks just thinking about it. Do you have any comments or advice?

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    If he thinks you're boring and he yells at you and is only with you because of your looks...

    exactly what the hell do you get out of this relationship?

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  • BlueAlice
    12 years ago

    He is abusive. Get the hell out before it turns physical!

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    • thetruthudontwannahear
      9 years ago

      Move on and stop being dramatic. Or stop being a dead fish. I bet your the type thats like talking to a wall. Nothing interesting to say, the simplest things fly over your head. Im probably gonna get heat over this but im just telling you the truth. Sounds like hes wanting a fun relationship and your dull. If not then obviously he doesnt care to lose you and thats saying he can do better. So yea ignore my reply like you most likely will and take the advice of those saying what you want to hear.

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  • Karyyk
    12 years ago

    Yells at you? You lock yourself up to avoid it? That's your cue that you're not the problem, he is. Get out while you can.

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  • NoraBaker
    12 years ago

    When we try to change or disguise who we really are, the end result is: boring. Well, isn't it obvious? The lack of spontaneity, truthfulness, and soul kills your personality. Want yours back? Stop pretending just to try and please Mr. Moron, take a break and let who you were meant to be shine through.

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  • username21
    12 years ago

    He seems pretty shallow and your just too afraid to jump boats. If you truly are beautiful than you'll have a lot less trouble finding someone else than he will.

    Also, love, from a scientific point of view is when you still like someone after 4 months. He apparently does not love you. Cut your losses, don't try to change him and leave the relationship.

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    • joybird
      12 years ago

      4 YEARS scientifically!!

      This relationship is over and I'm just surprised she stuck an abusive relationship like this for so long.

      OP you really need to take a good look at yourself and why you allow some @sshole to treat you this way! I'm sure you are worth 10 of him, and any love you have for this fool will soon fade when you look back at his behaviour!!

      Get out ASAP!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Makes me remember a scene from American Psycho where they are talking about girls and personalities.

    Why be in a relationship that obviously isn't right for anyone?

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  • Riddler
    10 years ago

    Than why are you dating him?

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Get some Racey Lingerie

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    Fisrt couple of months in a relationship people try their hardest to be an amazing person, but eventually we end up just being ourselves. It's tiresome to keep up the charade, and if the person doesn't like who you are then pack up and move on. This is why people generally don't tell their lovers about their past relationships to, it's a breeding ground for jelousy. If your in this relationship, and it's not making you happy I think it would be in your best interest to end it. Or maybe give him a taste of his own medicine. Start going out and doing your own thing with some friends or something, neglect him of your time. And when he starts nosing around you life tell HIM he's boring. You have better things to do that put up with his sorry ass.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    You didn't mention how he lost the "perfect" girlfriend that he had. Probably by being a prick to her.

    Dump his ass. He doesn't value you. If he thinks you're so boring, then he won't miss you and it won't be a problem. He's just using you to vent his low-self-esteem blah blah blah the answer is obvious.

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  • kellstar79
    12 years ago

    Agree ^^ leave him and don't look back. There's someone out there that will treat you with the respect you deserve. Your bf sounds like a mean arseh**e!

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