Is it normal that my boyfriend talks dirty in his sleep & masturbates?

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I love my boyfriend very much and when we have sex (not so much now), it's really good. But lately, even just this morning hence the reason I have decided to ask the masses, I woke up to him saying things like 'I'm so horny', 'you're really pretty' & 'come on' - while he was rubbing himself down below. A few months back I caught him taking down his boxers in preparation for a wank, I can't get to sleep because I'm worried as soon as I do fall asleep he's going to check and see if I am so he can start touching himself. He told me that an ex-girlfriend finished with him because she caught him masturbating to porn while she was asleep next to him. I feel really upset about this. I love him dearly but I can't keep going on like this. Help! I'd really appreciate it if I could get some male perspectives on this. That'd be great. Many thanks.

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    You should watch and maybe even join in next time you catch him! If his sex drive is that strong, then you should work on yours to keep up! Be creative, keep it interesting and new, if he is still the desire of your heart

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  • prasatko
    11 years ago

    Male perspective? OK, I can offer just my personal perspective which might not be representative of all men, but this is just my view:
    -If I caught my girlfriend masturbating (at night or day, asleep or awake, with or without porn), it would be the most sexually arousing thing for me. In fact, we agreed to incorporate something similar into our sexual encounters, I love watching her when she masturbates to orgasm and lets me watch her, sometimes she uses porn, sometimes not, both cases are perfect for me. But this can be quite different from your situation because we have sex every day and she knows that I love watching her pleasuring herself to the point that it is my intense obsession. So if I caught her masturbating, it would be great and I would be more than happy.
    -As Naamah stated above, it is important to know why he does not have sex with you. If he is refused, then it is just natural that he masturbates and nobody could expect him not to do it as often as he needs. If he refuses your sexual advances, then there is a big problem and only in this case it would be understandable that it troubles you that he prefers solo sex to partner sex.
    If he does not refuse you sexually, then even if you had active sex life, his masturbation would be perfectly normal. So unless he refuses sex with you, there is no reason to feel offended or worried because of his masturbation.

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    Let him wank. Guys are gonna wank whether they have someone to fuck or not.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Haha thats funny.

    Your question title is misleading.

    He is playing a single player game you could always offer to play co-op.

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    • scottish_quine
      11 years ago

      I did kind of think that the question title was a bit rubbish but it's all that I could think of this morning. I'm new at this IIN thing - I hope that it does help me though!

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  • TheMugBrothers
    11 years ago

    I masturbate on my girls leg all the time until i cum..

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  • scottish_quine
    11 years ago

    Thank you everyone for your comments.

    scottish_quine x x x

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  • scottish_quine
    11 years ago

    Thank you everyone for your comments - I'm sorry about the rubbish question title - I just didn't know how else to condense it! I have quite a high sex drive and I am always making sure I look good at all times - have sexy underwear on - treat him well, and never ONCE - have I refused sex from him.

    I just cannot understand it - I feel as though I want to join in but I fear that if I do try and do that - he'll reject me.

    In response to Naamah - I don't know why we don't have sex so much now - It was on a daily basis before, we've been together only seven months and when we do have sex, there's porn involved, toys, all sorts. He has told me in the past what he likes and I try to incorporate it into our love making as much as possible. And he always says the next morning, that was amazing last night. I'm just so confused!

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  • Naamah
    11 years ago

    It seems quite difficult to me to tell you my opinion on your situation and your boyfriend´s behavior as I miss important information in your original post - specifically:
    1. Have you repeatedly refused to have sex with him when he wanted it or do you refuse it on regular basis? Does it happen to you that he wants to have sex with you and you decline because you are not in the mood?
    2. Has he ever refused to have sex with you when you EXPLICITELY let him know you are horny and want to have sex with him?
    You wrote "...we have sex (not so much now)..." Why you don´t have sex so much now?
    Without knowing answers to these questions it wouldn´t be wise or fair to comment on your situation or "judge" your boyfriend´s behavior.

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