Is it normal that my boyfriend pisses me off everyday.?

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Im been with my boyfriend for 5 months and everyday he finds a way for me to literally hate his guts..
But by the end of the day some how manages to get me to be utterly and completely in love with him.
But he has a nasty habit of messing with my head, by flirting with my friend and other girls, pretending to be pissed at me and lying to me.
Then going back to being normal.

This isn't fair on me in the slightest, and I tell him at least twice a week that I can't handle the constant emotion change. He over looks me saying that and says "sorry" but continues to do it anyway. And my close friends have all told me to leave him that he's only causing me emotional stress that I don't need on top of my already mental life. But I can't find it in me to be without him, I don't really want to call it "love" but I feel lost when I've not seen him at least every second day, I don't know what to do and I feel really down and depressed.

Now I'm asking this question as today he's really getting to me. I should mention I'm asexual and my boyfriends completely okay with that and he never really said otherwise he says he "loves me too much" to want to risk losing me over being intimate.
Which is perfect for me and to be honest sometimes I do feel really bad because I can't give him the intimacy that another girl could, but I am very great full he's chosen me to be with.

But about an hour ago he just started a fight about me being asexual and how I should want to be intimate with him if I love him, and that through me over the edge and now I'm fuming please tell me I'm not doing anything wrong and that I'm not crazy for being with someone who messes with my head as often as he does.

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    Leave this douche, he's not okay with your asexuality. He is manipulating you. You can get someone better!

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Yeah. If ur asexual u gotta let him do his thing. Or break up. U can't just expect him to have no sexual desire all of a sudden and be fine with it.

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  • robbieforgotpw
    11 years ago

    Better to piss off than piss on you right?

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  • Riker300
    11 years ago

    Great full? Thanks for making me laugh. I'm at my office waiting for my colleagues to finish their end of a project so I can get home.

    Sounds like this guy is a jerk and you are comfortable enough with your relationship to tolerate it. Sounds like your intimacy issues and his usual acceptance of your situation coupled with your love for him makes it worth the trouble.

    Then again perhaps you anger easily. It is all about finding out if you can accept him for who is ot not.

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  • Messyjessy
    11 years ago

    If ur asexual its unfair for u to expect him to have no pleasure. These are 2 different issues. Address them as such. U being asexual u shouldnt have a bf. get ur emotional needs from ur friends ur kinda torchering him. On the other hand no one deserves to be verbally abused. Sounds kinda codependant. Maybe ur gay n done know it yet or are in denial :)

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    If you're asexual you don't need a bf. This is just a friendship and he deserves sex somewhere else.

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    • MrsChrome
      11 years ago

      Just because I don't want sex doesn't mean I don't want the emotional side of a relationship.?
      What do I just not deserve a boyfriend.?

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      • GoraIntoDesiGals
        11 years ago

        Does he not deserve sex? If not with you then with someone else?

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  • disthing
    11 years ago

    You're willing to put up with all the shit he slings at you because at the end of the day you're "completely and utterly in love with him".

    What do you want from us? It's your choice to be with him despite his flaws. If you've had enough, make the decision, leave him. If you can't bear to leave him, then you have to put up with his flaws.

    (p.s. why did you delete my comment?)

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    • MrsChrome
      11 years ago

      Sorry I was showing my friend about my question and when she was scrolling down she hit the "hide button"

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    It means you really love him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    is he asexual too?

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    • MrsChrome
      11 years ago

      No, he's not.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Poor guy. I must be torture for him not to get any. And why the hell are you guys in a relatioship? Do you at least kiss?

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        • MrsChrome
          11 years ago

          Because he must see something in me I guess.
          And yes we do kiss and whatnot just nothing sexual.

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  • Alex_Gee
    11 years ago

    I'd say yes its normal because a lot of guys just dont know how to go on with women and although u don't say, you both sound kinda young so thats even more likely to be normal behaviour for him. Is it right though? - fuck no its not right, but u need to put your foot down and tell him to fuck off. At the end of the day he either wants to be with u or he doesnt. You don't say whether or not u'r Asexual as in u just dont have the interest or Asexual as in u dont have any organs - but either way if u'r not interested in being intimate he shouldn't use that as an excuse to get with other girls. He might be frustrated sexually, but he needs to explain it and stop being a dick. On the other hand u need to be firmer with him - tell him how u feel and give him an ultimatum - accept u and stop pissing around, or fuck off and use someone else! Ax

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    • Nokiot9
      9 years ago

      Explaining it really helps me with raging hard ons. Lol

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  • Shroot
    11 years ago

    I'm going to be honest and say i didn't read this.

    But a blow job solves everything.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Let's just say if I treated my gf like this we'd be history.

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  • davesumba
    11 years ago

    lol, usually it's the girl who behaves this way. idk why a girl would put up with a guy if he acted like that though.

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  • MsWVgal
    11 years ago

    You need to re-evaluate the situation.

    1) Are his actions intentional? Is he TRYING to fool with your head, or are you short tempered, or is he emotionally unstable himself?

    2) When in this type of situation, PUT YOUR HEALTH FIRST. Determine the realistic limits of what you can handle - emotionally and physically - and set those boundaries. Let him know, too - because you should NEVER, I repeat NEVER stay in a relationship that is harming you or hurting your self esteem. It doesn't matter if the relationship is abusive or immature or you simply can't handle it right now - worry about yourself, first.

    3) Are your expectations of him realistic? Are his expectations of you? Both of you need to be open to each other.

    4) Don't accept lies. Don't accept mind games. Don't play them, either.

    5) If you're unhappy, leave the situation. You don't have to love or not love him, but is "being together" worth what you're suffering? Is it fair to either of you to stat in this relationship?

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    • MrsChrome
      11 years ago

      I'm pretty sure he doesn't do it on purpose, I think it's more because he gets a reaction out of me and my friends by messing that he continues.

      I agree about never being in an abusive relationship, but he's not one to say really hurtful things to or about me.
      And I've had a dodgy mental health in my past that he knows of, sometimes I think he just forgets. And I don't want to make everything about me you know.?

      We are very open with each other and will say anything that's on our minds.

      I don't tend to accept lies, but sometimes you just have to, to get over things if you get me.?

      And when were on good days I can't picture life without him, and he is worth it to me and vise versa, but using an example of last night I didn't care if he up and left and I never saw him again, I would have been fine. :/

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      • MsWVgal
        11 years ago

        "Does it to gt a reaction out of me..." Hon that is doing it on purpose.

        And my point was that even if you don't believe its an abusive relationship, its not worth it if you are often feeling sad or angry or depressed. It's not fair to either of you if you're not happy.

        My other point was that you shouldn't accept a pattern of him lying to you. A rare fib, maybe, but why does he lie so frequently? What else has he lied about, and you not caught?

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Maybe it's time to get rid with a shiv?

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