Is it normal that my boyfriend nags all the time?

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He's always wanting me to get up early, and clean the apartment.
Our situation is that he pays for us, as long as i keep the place clean. And thats my jobg everyday. Thats all i do. And it feels like it isnt up to his standards, so he tells me what to do.

Even when i dont wake up early (like he wants me to) i still get my cleaning done. When he comes home from work, I make him dinner. Then we sit and chill and play video games or watch a movie. He'll ask me if i can get this or that for him from the kitchen, and ill get it for him. Just so he doesnt have to get up. He's a flooring installer, and he works hard everyday. But some days when hes pissed off about something from work, i feel like hes taking it out on me. He'll ask me, almost everday what ive done and its starting to get annoying. Some nights he'll ask "are you going to: organize this, take out the trash, brush the cat, clean the hallway, get up early, do the laundry, wash the walls/windows, vacuum etc..." just because i'll leave one thing out of all the things ive done, for the next day. But all i do is clean, and i leave one thing out for myself to do the next day, and its like the place is a mess. My friemds anf his friend tell me the place is clean but i tell them its not because of the way HE wants it done.
So really, is it normal that he nags all the fucking time?

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    It sounds like he wants a maid more than a girlfriend.

    You should tell him that you're currently looking for a job so soon you won't have all day to clean the apartment anymore.

    See how he reacts to this. If he gets angry, then maybe it's time you rethink how your relationship is going. Do you want to be stuck inside cleaning out the home for the rest of your life?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      No, i definately do not. Thank you for your advice.

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  • bambie
    11 years ago

    You need some independence he's trying to make you reliant on him so you can't leave him even if you want to he wants a maid/slave not a wife/girlfriend get a job make things even split the work don't get up and get him everything your not his mom and he's a big boy he can get it himself

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    U gotta haul ur own weight in a relationship. Its perfect normal that he expects you to. Its not really normal that he nags you. Usually women are the nagging ones. Tell him to F off when ur sleeping. If u get it all done AND cook him dinner before he gets home the least he could do is let u sleep in every once in a while. And maybe he is just real anal about cleaning. Needs everything just so.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    It sounds like he's made you into a slave.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Sounds like he's the girl and you're the guy.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    leave the house in a mess just once. make him get his own stuff. don't engage when he starts in on you. just let him know you do your best and if it's not good enough he can do it himself. get a job that will be rewarding and move on. you deserve better

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  • forever_anon
    11 years ago

    Although nagging is a stereotypical feminine trait, men do it, too. It's not as unusual as you might think. have the two of you recently moved in together? Because my husband used to nag quite often (although to a lesser extent) when we were still dating and got our first place together. As we got used to each other's habits and routines, the nagging happened less and less. It could be that your situation will improve with time, but it sounds like his nagging behavior is creating a rift in your relationship, so maybe it's time to talk with him about how you feel. Tell him that you work hard to provide a comfortable, clean home for the two of you, and that you would like more appreciation your efforts.

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