Is it normal that my boyfriend likes sex a bit too much

So my boyfriend has what seems to be an obsession with phone sex- he always asks for it when I text him. Its not like he asks for nudes just for me to 'dominate' over him on the phone
I've told him before how i feel and that I don't really like it but he still asks.
If I was to say no, he'd wait for like a few hours and ask again.
He likes to sexualize everything we or I do and it can be awkward (especially in front of my friends)
My sister said to leave him but idk. Help me out mates

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  • nikkiclaire

    Sounds like he is selfish and has no respect or regard for what you want. Listen to your sister.

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    • Dustyair

      I agree, Well said!

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    • NormalEntity

      I also agree! Dump em.

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  • CDmale4fem

    I know it sucks to find out the truth, but it would suck slot more to not find out for another 10-15' years of you stayed together that long. Better to know now before kids are in the way. Some guys are just shit for a dad figure.

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  • Sounds like good riddance, I would say you had a lucky escape. Block his number and if he comes round knocking on your door don't answer it. Tell him to go away or you will report him for harassment.

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    • I'm way ahead of you. I messaged him warning him to stay away because he was trying to get me through them.

      My only problem is going back to college with him for sure (if he even remembers my classes) he's going to try and get to me a lot

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      • If he tries to get to you at college report him to a member of staff, they have a duty of care for your safety and that includes harasment from another student.

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  • CDmale4fem

    Don't let him talk you into "taking him back". He might say he misses you , he lives you, he's gonna make an effort to change, they never do. As long as they can string you along and Get what he wants. It's pretty well obvious he doesn't really care about you and your thoughts and feelings. I have long thought that guys like him need to be reminded now and then with an ass whooping how you treat women, you respect them and you sure as hell don't push them out of the house telling them to fuck off. That's not love. Anyway, keep us informed as to your progress finding someone new.

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  • CDmale4fem

    A few weeks ago I was talking to my friend in another state. She knows and has known that I am a crossdresser. She mentioned a couple times to me that her bras were getting tattered and worn. I had asked her about sending her a gift card or ordering her some online. I would ask what size she required, and then one day she said to me that she didn't want to discuss it any more and pretty much she had said she had gained some weight so I thought she was upset about me asking her size or whatever. But my point being I really finally got the point. So many of our conversations I for some reason would turn the conversations to talking about lingerie, or something I did or liked, or would send pictures to her of things I tried on or wire for awhile. I was to blind to see t by at I was not being thoughtful of her feelings etc. I just kept on and it finally hit me that I was going to lose a DAMN good friend. So I had to change my attitude and actions.
    If your bf keeps it up you WILL get to a point where enough is enough and you might lose your temper and it will be harsh. He needs to learn that NO MEANS NO. Regardless of the topic of duscussion. It could be considered a firm of sexual harrassment. If he was on the job somewhere with that discussion somebody would be getting papers for a lawsuit. Stick to your guns and either tell him no or tell him to go find someone else to take care of his stuff. You have told him your thoughts and feelings about it. And yet he persists. So some day when you been together say 8-10 years, he decided one day he's horny and wants se, right now. Guys lu k e him Get tempermental, they get oissed, they throw things and they start hitting whatever or whoever is close and the object of his attitude. (He would be a shifty little birch at that point). But you need to REALLY STUCK TO YOUR GUNS for a few days or maybe a week. See what he does or where or when he's suddenly out of character for his actions. I bet he will try going to someone else for his "fix". Try it and really watch what he does.

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  • Whatintarnation

    Young men are loaded with testosterone. Believe me, it makes you think about sex constantly. So it can be hard to control at times. That being said, it is still controllable. Have a conversation with him about how his behavior is negatively affecting your relationship. He'll either man up and stop or perhaps whine like a little bitch. If it's the latter, you know it's time to breakup.

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  • curious-bunny

    Yea I would listen to sister and dump him, if he won't listen to you then why would you want a guy like that

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  • Bbc4mommy

    Sounds like your stuck up and need to satisfy him better sexually

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  • Hey guys
    So I talked to him and I told him that if that was the way he was gonna act all the time, I didn't really want to be with him.
    It didn't end well so CDmale4fem you were right. Even though I wasn't rude he told me to go f*ck myself and that I was probably f*cking with some other boy.He was yelling so much and he pushed me out of the house only to ask if I'd ever stop for a moment to think how that'll make him feel.

    I said f*ck you and left

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    • Boojum

      "He was yelling so much and he pushed me out of the house only to ask if I'd ever stop for a moment to think how that'll make him feel."

      It's clearly all about him, and how your proper role is to do whatever the hell he wants.

      The verbal abuse and accusing you of not wanting to be with him because you're a slut - rather than because of his own behaviour - is a huge red flag. If he did literally physically push you out of the house, that's an enormous red banner.

      He sounds extremely immature, narcissistic, or possibly something much worse.

      Consider this a lucky escape, and consider how you'll deal with him if comes back. You mention possibly having to deal with him at college. Consider a preemptive strike: contact whoever is responsible for student welfare, say there's been an unpleasant encounter and you're concerned about what might happen in future, and ask for advice on how you should deal with any issues that might arise.

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  • Thank you so much. I've just been feeling a bit unsure but I'll talk to him today when I go over

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    • NormalEntity

      If you already talk to him about it once and he didn't bother to care. Something is wrong with him.

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