Is it normal that my boyfriend is this way?

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My boyfriend is super sweet, kind, and caring. He's one of the nicest guys I've ever met. And handsome. But he's super close with a lot of girls as a result. He's very "popular" and lots of girls tell them they love him and come to him with all their problems and he's emotionally close with a lot of them. He has some very close female friends. Now, I'm not super comfortable with these things, but I let them go and our relationship goes on fine. The problem is, I just wish he would apologize sometimes, or even care that I'm uncomfortable with what I consider emotional cheating in some respects. He is just so convinced that he's right, and it's slowly draining all my self-esteem. I don't know what to do.

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  • ShadoClone
    8 years ago

    I despise low self-esteem. It's emotionally draining, problematic, and annoying and that being said you need to raise your own confidence IN YOURSELF. The problem isn't external but rather it's internal. Which is normal enough I suppose. You're probably jealous, scared, and clingy (I'm joking about clingy) which means that you believe that for some strange reason he'll up and leave you for another woman. In my opinion that line of thinking makes no sense. He's yours and don't forget that.

    Yea, stop that. NOW. There's probably 5 or six women that's he's had to reject for you personally and you don't know about it. Maybe he's slapping himself because one girl had the looks and the other had the brains but instead he's with you. Which should mean your self confidence needs a workout, literally. Start doing something that helps you remold your self image in a physical way.

    Moral? HE CHOSE YOU. GET OVER IT. HE'S NOT DOING ANYTHING WRONG, YET. Start spending time with him, give him something interesting, GO AND DO SOMETHING and then tell him how awesome it was. Start using your assets to keep other women at bay. Sucks to be a woman in today's world. I feel more pissed at your lack of self-confidence than empathetic about your situation.

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  • RedCurlsAre
    10 years ago

    Deary, tell him, boys don't nottice girls emotions a lot,

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  • la_uva_mojada
    10 years ago

    teenagers.. ugh.. i'm so glad i'm beyond that stupid bullshit now being an adult.. it gets a lot better.. trust me

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  • YouKnowWho
    10 years ago

    I guess he's really...emotionally appealing, then. I think you should talk to him about it, and really explain to him that his behavior is hurting you. I don't know if it's fair to ask him not to be so friendly to other girls, but I guess you two can find a way to work that out through good communication.

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  • TheLovelyMissLuna
    10 years ago

    My boyfriend in middle school had this same problem with me. He thought I was "too popular" with both sexes, and his lack of trust in me is why I broke up with him. Talk to him about it. Or else you'll lose a good man.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    He's cheating on you emotionally? haha.

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  • Jonysbachontrak
    10 years ago

    We'll, when you think about it, if your bf's friends thought to talk about them it likely means they don't have a serious crush on him. My best friend (a guy) is like that. Lots of girls talk to him about their problems and ask for his help.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    OMG YOU JEALOUS BITCH, I HOPE HE LEAVES YOU.

    You are being a selfish bitch with low self esteem, both of which are EXTREMELY unattractive to a guy. You have an amazing guy who is YOURS, and you have to share his kindness with others, or get dumped for being a BITCH BITCH BITCH. Be happy for him.

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