Is it normal that my boyfriend is texting his ex and lying?

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My boyfriend of almost a year has been texting the girl that he used to be unofficually going out with and lying to me about it. Last night he left his phone at mine and it went off at 6am so i checked it (wrong i know) It was from the girl. They always text and he tries to hide it which always makes me more worried. Recently he's told me that he's out of credit seeing as im with Telstra and him Optus but he can still text other optus people (her). Im getting really worried seeing as what she wrote was obviously a reply about something, yet his outbox has other texts but none to her, and his inbox has other things but non from her. Yet his recently texted contacts has her 3rd. SO she should be in there!!!
Help, please i dont know what to do. I love him so much but this is hurting so much seeing as i know she wants him back.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Budthewise u dont hve a gf do u?!! He doesnt know what he tlkin bout talk to him bou it and ask him to stop textin her and tell him it makes u uncomfortable if he loves u he will respect youre wishes

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  • mika123
    14 years ago

    hey, sorry to say this but no its not normal. if he's deleting certain recieved txts and his outbox he has something to hide. Ive gone thro an ex's phone b4 (i dnt make a habit of it bt i didnt trust him), i found txts from him sayin he missed this girl. I plucked up the courage and told him id looked thro his phone. i sed it really apologettically that id looked thro his phone and i no i shudnt hav done it bt told him wot id found. your situation is a little more difficult since u havent actually seen any txts. u need to ask yourself why u love him and if he treats u how u deserve to be treated. u seem like a real nice person.
    hope ive helped in some way.

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  • freethinkerguy
    14 years ago

    If you both agreed to have a monogamous relationship and he can't and can't be truthful about it and if it causes you pain, them ditch him. Seriously. Because it isn't going to change and it's going to keep on hurting you. Count your losses and move on. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with a person like that? People don't change.

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  • Jen118584
    14 years ago

    He obviously deletes texts to and from her in case you snoop, since he knows you disapprove.

    He doesn't respect your wishes. He knows it bothers you and he still texts her and yeah, it's inappropriate because she wants him back. Talk to him. Tell him you checked the text because you were thinking maybe he was texting you from another phone since he left his at your place. Tell him how uncomfortable it makes you feel and that it's inappropriate and make him put himself in your shoes.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Beating a dead horse as I have writed toward issues like this enough time.

    Of course he is either cheating or at least not being as faithful toward you as you would like. However, you could be dating a great guy but instead, you choose to follow the tingling feeling down below and picked a piece of shit over a good guy.

    Serves you right, I hope he is cheating on you. Next time, date a chessclub guy instead. In the end, they make more money anyways.

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  • Bonnie&Clyde2014
    9 years ago

    He's deleting stuff because he knows he's doing something wrong.. If they were just saying what's up and keeping in touch like just friends - I don't think he'd be deleting stuff (or maybe so,) If they're flirting and sexting and all that ish, then that's def something to hide from you. Either way, talk to him about it. He'll prolly get all pissed off at you for checkin his phone and try to flip the situation around to make you the "bad guy" BUT, don't let that distract you... Be firm in letting him know that 1. It's SUPER disrespectful. 2. You want it to stop. Now, if that doesn't work, maybe he still has (or recently renewed) feelings for her and maybe it's time for y'all to end it. But until you know, step your game up girl if you wanna keep him (never let your man leave the house horny! #GirlCode ) I hope that helps some cuz I know I'd be pretty pissed off it was me in your situation. . . (:

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  • Elliemental
    10 years ago

    Next time, take her number down n text her saying that your number is his new number n be vague n let her dig his grave! Once you've got your proof he's a scum bag kick his ass to the curb, telling him nothing! Or that he's just no satisfying you sexually lol

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