Is it normal that my boyfriend is so attached so quickly?

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So Me and My boyfriend have been seeing each other for a Month now, But we only just made the relationship "Official" about two weeks ago. Now I like him I do but he just seems to be so attached so quickly , he told me he loved me in like the first week and as awful as it was i felt compelled to say it back to him he just kept looking at me like i was suppose to so i did ( I am ashamed and guilty because I don't love him yet)and then just today , we were talking and he said I'd rather Die then lose you. It's freaking me out, I am 2 years younger then him ( not to sure if that matters) Please , Please help.

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  • shuggy-chan
    10 years ago | pl

    imma guess he never had a GF before

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago | pl

    There's two types of guy like this

    1. A guy who geniunely gets attached quickly

    2. An abusive manipulative type

    They both move really fast, but for different effects and reasons.

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    • Cheesyremark
      10 years ago

      Number 1 seems like me I just can't bear the thought o losing them.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Exactly what no.2 would say.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    10 years ago

    For starters, it sounds like infatuation to me. He can't possibly have had many girlfriends. He also can't expect you to love him right off the bat. I would recommend that you tell him that you guys need to slow down and gauge his reaction if you are considering breaking up with him. A man that loves you would be hurt but would respect your wishes.

    Just watch out to ensure that he isn't getting too obsessed.

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  • dybex
    10 years ago

    It sounds like he's insecure. Tell him to calm the heck down and chill; that no one is going to 'die', and that you 'LIKE' being in a relationship with him.

    If you tell him that 'love' is something you take very seriously, and it's not going to happen for you in just a few weeks, then he should respect you and realize what an idiot he has been.

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    • TwoThumbs
      10 years ago

      I'm with this guy/gal. You need to sit this guy down and have a talk. An open and honest talk. He's insecure and "love struck". Love in an emotional relationship is something that develops... not something that just appears.

      Talk to him and tell him you care about him...you think he's the beez neez but let him know to take it down a notch. He's moving too fast and cannot develop a dependency for you.

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  • nanawhite
    10 years ago

    My boyfriend did pretty much the same thing. We had been seeing each other for a month when we decided to make official our relationship. And the next day, he said in a conversation something like " a fifty-fifty chance for us to have a blue-eyes girl ". Yet, at the beginning of our relationship, he was very shy to tell me that he loves me , but on the other hand, he was already making important commitments ! I was scared and I told about it. He simply explained how it was important for him to have children later. He just wanted to tell me about it. now, we've been together for seven months and both of us laugh about it. He's been serious but I am the one who will decide in the end. For the time being, we just enjoy your relationship and he agrees with it. So enjoy yours, and explain your bf your fears and you want it to slow down a little. Good luck !

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  • lufa
    10 years ago

    Sounds like a clingy loser. Now try breaking up with him, that'll be fun.

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    • Why-me008
      10 years ago

      i feel like that was un-needed , thanks anyway

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      • lufa
        10 years ago

        Explain.

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        • Why-me008
          10 years ago

          It just seemed like a really rude way to give someone advise , He isn't a "loser" and I dont want to break up with him , Because he is really sweet.

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  • kit-kat-bar
    10 years ago

    My boyfriend did the same thing, we have been together off and on for 2 years, I still don't know why the hell I'm with him. He gets upset easily about some things, and I felt sorry for him and the need to give him a chance. My concern now is the level of maturity. If maturity and level-headedness is what you value, I would run for the hills because he obviously doesn't know how to handle his emotions, and don't feel sorry for him. I feel like I made a huge mistake sometimes, he still makes me feel sorry for him, I don't think it's going to last much longer.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    My boyfriend did the same thiinngg. I think back on it now and I think it's adorable (At the time it was annoying and over bearing) >w< He thought we were going to get married a year after we got together. Had it all planned out in the first month. We've been together 3 and a half years now, and he reflects on his actions in embarrassment lol These things wear off eventually, you should tell him how you feel though

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    • Why-me008
      10 years ago

      I will for sure have a talk with him , thank you :)

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  • J3553
    10 years ago

    Either he's socially awkward and/or never been in a relationship or he's trying to manipulate you.

    I'd bet on the former, but look out for lies just in case.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Have you let him suck your dick yet?

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    • peterr
      10 years ago

      You can suck mine. What kind of a fucking question is that? Have a heart and I wonder if he did too...!

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    • Why-me008
      10 years ago

      Do you get a kick out of saying nasty things to people that are genuinely confused ? Because if so , you can feel free to bugger off , I am a nice girl and all but i am NOT about to take comments like that from guys like you ! got it ?

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      • Terence_the_viking
        10 years ago

        Apologies i thought you were a gay bloke.

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  • youareaghost
    10 years ago

    Red flags.

    Red flags everywhere.

    If you feel uncomfortable, you should. You have to be honest with him, and not the internet. If he tries to make you feel bad about your needing there to be space (because falling in love doesn't happen over night), he's a piece of shit. It doesn't matter why he's acting the way he is. Trust your instincts, they are there for a reason.

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