Is it normal that my boyfriend is my only friend?

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My boyfriend is the only real friend I have here, the only person I talk to on the phone or text, and the only person I hang out with.

I was originally from a small town and none of the friends I had were close friends. I hung out with them occasionally and that was pretty much it. I then moved to this big city in another state where I met my current boyfriend.

We met online and he was the only interesting person so we exchanged numbers, he met my parents, and we hung out. A week later we became a couple. Shortly after I met him, my parents were no longer ok with me meeting people online and they were never ok with taking me anywhere and dropping me off to meet people because its a dangerous city. (I don't have a car or driver's license). So if I ever go anywhere its only with my boyfriend in his car.

He didn't have many friends to begin with either and the ones he had started treating him weird because we are an interracial couple so he stopped hanging out with them.

I recently got a job and have no interest in being friends with any of the people I work with but he has started making friends at his job. I'm fine with him hanging out with his friends but I just end up staying home alone.

We've been together 7 months now and we've hung out damn near every day.

On an additional note... I have difficulty making female friends. All my life I've only had guy friends. I don't trust females and don't find them to be much fun. Talking to them is highly uncomfortable. I'm not able to make guy friends anymore tho out of respect for my boyfriend and our relationship. So...

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Comments ( 11 )
  • dom180
    11 years ago

    I don't think it's healthy. At some point you'll probably break up and then you'll lose everything and have no-one to help you get through it. Friends are important.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    Wait, you won't be friends with guys because it would hurt your relationship? That sounds a bit dysfunctional if you ask me..

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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    I think it is normal to some extent, especially in a long term and loving relationship good couples can get so close that they almost start functioning as one person and really complete each other. I know it sounds cheesy but I have a similar thing with my girlfriend (4 yr relationship and living together). as long as you both feel the same way about this and you are happy it is fine.

    However I think there are two pitfalls:

    1. If either one of you starts wanting a more active social life it could create conflict (the other could feel like he or she is not as important as before)

    2. (this happened to me and my gf some time ago) without realizing you can sort of slip into social isolation and become completely dependent on one another. While on one hand this seems stable and romantic, but when we realized that we basically had no other people to spend our weekends with anymore, it was quite a shock.

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  • Iamjustbeingme
    11 years ago

    Omg i am just like u and yes its normal. Because my bf is my only friend true! I talk to only him!

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    My only real friend is my bf. I used to have other friends but welive in different countries now. I have some acquaintainces here but none I would call friend

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  • 19sammi91
    6 years ago

    So I'm writing this late but oh well..

    That's quite close to my story.. small town hardly any friends (don't really want any) met my bf online.. only difference is he hasn't met my parents..

    But it's totally normal..

    Question.. I assume you 2 are no longer or...????

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    That's kind of sad actually.

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  • Iamjustbeingme
    11 years ago

    I lived in lebanon tn which is a small town then i moved too chicago the city. I am from here but moved to tn when i was ten n came back 3 days before my 18th bday

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  • TheBo$$
    11 years ago

    I feel the same way i only have 1 good friend and no one else and i dont have the guts to ask her out

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I find that I've made some great friends, but my boyfriend is my best friend. Which sounds mean to my bestfriend.. Sorry! lol My bf however, has me only, but he's totally fine with that. I don't care either, I think it's fine. We hang out everyday and think nothing of it. You shouldn't worry so much, it's not that big of deal. I've always wanted to make a couple friend though! Like 2 people who have been in a relationship for a while, and we can ttly hang out the 4 of us!! Maybe if it bugs you, you should try that?

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  • Abby13
    11 years ago

    My only real friend is my boyfriend. When I got sick, a lot of "friends" didn't want to stick around.
    Just be careful to let him have his space if he needs it, and there's no problem with that.

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