Is it normal that my boyfriend is acting this way

Okay, Before I start I know this isn't normal behavior .

But I need some help , I'm a 18 year old female who is dealing with a 21 year old male , nxt month will make it a year ' I would firstly say this is the FIRST time I've ever been In love (seriously) before we got in our relationship , he lied to me about having a child (red flag) although the child wasn't physically here , the girl was about five months ! Time went on and I forgave him (oh but trust my guards was up ) we started dating & everything was fine ' UNTIL it was getting closer to her due date ' they started getting back close , real close ' I mean she started sending him messages saying "we love you" ( her & the baby) also took pregnancy photos together (while we was dating ) he claim he was just being nice but I won't feeling it (they have a lot of history ) so to me things like that is a no go ' & just disrespectful , ANYWAY even closer to her due date he started getting distance from me & we just basically fell off , a month or two went by (baby is born by now ) me and him hooked back up ' we messed back around and I ended up getting pregnant ' sadly I had a miscarriage ' but after my mis carriage I've been so sad , a lil depressed & I'm not gonna lie a lil baby fever too ' he hated when I was sad about losing the baby ' but I always felt like he didn't understand because ' he wasn't attached as I was , (pushes fast forward ) me and him got back together , (if only u guys knew how much he acted like he was Inlove with me ) lately we been having some problems with his Bm , at first me and her were " okay" now out the blue she hates me ' certain things makes my suspicions go up about them still fooling around "gut feelings " but he swears up and down they don't and that he just loves and wants me ' Now once again I recently found out I'm pregnant , & she some how found out so ' now she telling him "if she has that baby u won't on't be able to see your son " just being childish " she also told me, she been having sex with him ( how nasty) but of course he says it's all lie and that I'm going to make her drive me crazy ' he's taking my pregnancy not so well base off all this pressure he said he so called feeling and that he's just not ready for two kids' But he won't thinking all that when he decided to just lay there all them damn times ' so I feel like no this didn't happen on purpose but it sure was an accident ' now he's calling me selfish for basically not saying I'm gonna get an abortion ( like wtf ) what about my feelings ? I already lost one , u just want me to send this one back too ? He's acting like a ass hole towards me now ' he even tryna talk to a girl that he sworn he ain't like, while all of this is going on ' my feelings are beyond hurt ' because this is the same guy that's claims he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me ' how could he be such a jerk towards me ? I've always been here for him , is he over whelmed ? Or just being a lil ass boy ' u love me ? How ? This is embarrassing , everytime I question why he's talking to other girls "he saids" you need to be worrying about the baby ' nothing else matters right now & that hurts df out my feeling because (yes right now my child is my first priority ) but damn u just want me to act like my feelings ain't getting hurt ? Idk what exactly am i asking yal , I just need somebody to preach to me :( I love him , I really do ' I know he loves me too , but why ? How ? Could do this to me , just want me to shut up and watch him destroy us :( smh someone help me I've been crying , I'm trying not to stress' I don't wanna lose this one "btw I'm 5 weeks

Voting Results
20% Normal
Based on 40 votes (8 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 33 )
  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

    21 knocked up 2 chicks, can't keep either of them happy. This dude sounds like a loser.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • Crusades

      No he's not a loser. He's an alpha male who's successful with women, is virile and has a good seed. That is considered a quality in nature.
      Unfortunately, in our modern society these traits aren't viewed as qualities because of all the liberal and feminist propaganda that does nothing more than degrade and shun masculinity, trying to make it obsolete.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
        -
      • OtherSide

        That's not feminist propaganda, it's the 21st century.

        The knuckle-dragging, so-called "alpha" is like the tonsil of society. It served a purpose to our primate ancestors, but now it's better off getting removed.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
          -
        • Crusades

          Well then explain to me why most women prefer dating these "knuckle dragging" primates?

          Comment Hidden ( show )
            -
          • OtherSide

            Inability to rise above their baser animalistic instincts. Men aren't the only ones who can be tonsils.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
          • Energy

            Lol they don't sweetie. They're considered losers.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
      • He's absolutely none of those things. He's immature and irresponsible. And now because of his stupid philandering he has another kid on the way even though he can't even competently take care of one.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
          -
        • Crusades

          She's the one who chose him. She said he lied to her before they even got together and she still accepted to be with him. Why do we always point the finger at the "bad guy" and everything he does wrong, and not at the naive and stupid girls who always make the wrong choices?

          Comment Hidden ( show )
            -
          • Her horrible decision making (which I completely agree with you on) doesn't change the fact he is irresponsible and immature.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
              -
            • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

              Horrible decision making is the reason I have zero sympathy for single mothers.

              Comment Hidden ( show )
      • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

        There are Ladykillers in the world and then there are douche bags. This kid, is a douche bag.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
  • handsignals

    BIRTH CONTROL!!!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • iEatZombies_

    These children are about to have fucked up lives.
    Well, your child may have a future if you leave this joke. Course you probably won't, so I revert to my opening statement.

    None of you three should have a kid right now- but that doesn't mean you should get an abortion. All three of you are selfish and deserve each other. Those babies are the victims here, not the three of you.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • BlessedOne

      Thank you for your open statement ' But I will do anything in my power ' to avoid my child having a fucked up life' that's something I refuse to ever let happen while I'm breathing on this earth ' & may I ask u why u may say I'm selfish ? If you knew me that would be the last thing in your mouth to say about me , I'm selfish ? Because I'm having the baby ? Or because who I'm having the baby with ? Make it clear for me

      Comment Hidden ( show )
  • disthing

    "I know this isn't normal behavior"

    Glad you could be of service to yourself.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • RoseIsabella

    I wish you all the best, but if for some reason you lose this baby take it as a sign from God and dump this jerk wad!

    For future reference, if you meet someone and that person lies to you cut that person's ass off. Nip it in the bud! Once a liar, cheat or thief always a liar, cheat or thief. When someone lies to you you can choose to forgive the person but forgiveness doesn't mean you need to keep that person in your life.

    I hope your baby us born happy and healthy!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • OtherSide

      Sign from God? It'll probably be more of a sign from Darwin.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
        -
      • RoseIsabella

        Well, from wherever the sign comes I hope you can see those red flags now, girl. Keep your eyes open.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
          -
        • BlessedOne

          I will I really appreciate that , my eyes are definitely open now

          Comment Hidden ( show )
            -
          • RoseIsabella

            Right on!

            Comment Hidden ( show )
  • AkatsukinoOokami

    I hope the bby is born healthy!!!!

    you say he loves you........ well i just don't think someone who gets one girl pregnant before quickly skipping on to the next probably doesn't love you quite as much as you deserve.............. if you really care about the welfare and safety of your bby you should probably find someone who can actually look after you and said bby, who is not only a decent person with a job who can be a good father figure but also not a alpha-male dropkick who will never give his full attention or support to your family

    one way or another g-luck :))))))))))

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • BlessedOne

      Than you so much , can you give some tips to move on and stay focus , Because I really do have my mind made up ' that I'm done & I want to just get myself together & leave him alone ' But sometimes out the blue ' I bust into tears' because I just don't understand why he would do this to me & I feel weak at times

      Comment Hidden ( show )
        -
      • AkatsukinoOokami

        It may sound harsh and you might say its not that easy but the easiest way to move on is just forget about him, move in with a family member who he don't know and just cease contact with him. it may not seem easy to you but there is no easier way out.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
  • shuggy-chan

    normal behavior for deadbeats

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Crazy-guy

    Yeah the guy is a jerk and I know jerks, jerk off forever so you should have stayed away from him in the first place but now Idk what you should do it seems you are stuck with him....

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • BlessedOne

      Your probably right about should've staying away from him , but what done is done ' thanks though

      Comment Hidden ( show )
  • dman111

    OK WOWOWOWOWOWO The biggest issue in this world with this stuff is Emotions which we all know women have enough to go around...

    No matter how hot succesful,smart, funny etc etc of a women they for the most part feel the need to have someone and this is what causes women to deal with the shit Men do ..

    Women refuse to accept the basics of men still to this day ...

    My wife which I am happily married to with 2 amazing daughters still refuses to believe what makes me happy is My kids,Sex and my job .. She still after 7 years thinks I am complicated or things I mean something other then what I am saying..

    You can't blame him anymore then yourself because it is your blind emotions that even bring you here to ask this question the same emotions that made you stick around and try again and get pregnant..

    Another thing after 1 year together let me tell you somethign .. YUOU DON"T KNOW THE REAL HIM TO SY YOU LOVE HIM,..

    It is your emotions telling you that you love him so so much ...

    Womens best friend her looks and smart
    Womens worst enemy there Emotions whic most of the time rblind you from the obvious and realistic turth..

    Man's best friend SMart and back obone and realistic view of most things

    MAn;s worst enemy Lack of emotionsand ignorance to equality

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • Energy

      Lol gtfo little troll.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
    • BlessedOne

      OMG , your awesome , okay your totally right ' your right , I know what I need to do ' at this point I just have to get myself together ' stay focus , work hard ' so me and my child can be good ! But still in the back of my mind ' I'm confused & hurt . He's no good for me at all idk if it's because he still haven't grown up or he's just evil (seriously) if u knew things he do/ say u would probably say "omg he is crazy" I can admit I this last year I been letting my emotions take over me & be my brain " now I guess I'm paying for it ? But I don't regret this child I will be bringing in the world (at all) I just don't understand how could u say your inlove with somebody then do things like this to them ? How ? I would never do anything to hurt him , so why hurt me ?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
        -
      • green_boogers

        Because he is a taker. He will lie to any woman to get sex. It was comforting to believe his lies. Your mind is still struggling to accept this.

        Comment Hidden ( show )