Is it normal that my boyfriend has this kind of female friend?

Ok, so I've been seeing this guy, N, for a few months. I left my previous boyfriend to be with him, because I strongly felt like we were made for each other. I mean, we're both fun, artistic, down-to-earth people and we have the same tastes and values.

However, there's this girl, L, that is friends with my boyfriend that I absolutely can't stand. She's one year older than he is (she's 20 and we're both 19), and she's the polar opposite of us. She likes fashion, clothes and money, she's filthy rich and she doesn't care about the rest of the world. It's not that she's a bad person, it's just that she doesn't fit with our personalities at all.

My boyfriend is the only one in our group that knows her, as they've met through a guy he knows from school that isn't part of our group. They barely see each other, but she texts him all the time. He told me multiple times that she's really annoying, but I see in his face that he enjoys getting her messages. To be honest, this girl is really beautiful (and she's asian, which I know my boyfriend loves), and he even admitted to me that she was one of the most beautiful girl he'd ever seen. A friend of his told me that N only liked the attention because he never got that kind of attention from this kind of girl, however I feel like probably likes her as more than just "this girl that gives him attention".

I know for a fact he's had a big crush on her before we dated, but she shut him down because she was not single at that time, and he apparently got over it. I also know, from looking at their text conversations, that he tells her everything about our sex life and about his own past adventures, even if she isn't really asking him anything.

It's hard to hate this girl, because I don't feel like she's really pursuing him, but I'm just really mad about this situation. Is she really just a friend like they say she is, or is he planning on getting with her?

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Comments ( 10 )
  • Mando

    Your problem is your boyfriend, not her. He's crushing on her and telling intimate details of your relationship that are no one else's business? You need to stand up for yourself with him.

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  • Energy

    She doesn't sound interested in him. Just likes to keep him around for back up. And he sounds a bit obsessed with her.

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  • davesumba

    This is normal, boyfriends are allowed to have female friends, quit being insecure and jealous, otherwise he will in fact leave you.

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    • Goingdeepsea

      As much as I hate this, you're probably right...

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  • Bow95

    It's totally normal. He's planning on banging her. I'm not even kidding. How i know? I'm a guy. Putting myself in his shoes.

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    • davesumba

      I have to partially disagree with you. Yes, this is how my former roommate would talk on the phone to girl's he cheats on his gf with, BUT a general rule of thumb when it comes to boyfriends' phones, is that if he'll cheat, then he'll delete. So the fact that he is so open about these conversations with this girl tells me that he has nothing to hide.

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  • OswaldCobblepot

    Whoooooo fucking caaaaaares‽

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  • jajipoji

    Don't grill him about what he writes and stuff. It sounds he likes her. So what? Learn to live with that or dump him.

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  • Pandabear16

    For some reason i feel bad for the previous boyfriend.....i know i don't know the WHOLE story, but feels like he was just replaced just like that. I wonder if he's on here too talking about how you broke up with him. Mmmmm.....as for your current situation i would agree with "davesumba"

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  • Thatguy777

    Yeah, you need to have a serious talk with him about this. It seems like he's more interested in her than you if he would tell you how beautiful she is. Also, he has no right to be talking about your sex life. Of course, this could be karma biting you in the ass for leaving your previous boyfriend for him. It's possible that he might do the same to you.

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