Is it normal that my boyfriend has pedophile tendencies?

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So, I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. We are both 29 years old. At this point, we have shared a lot about our lives and past experiences.

There is one point that is quite concerning regarding this, and it is that my boyfriend always dated extremely young looking girls before me. In fact, I am the first partner to actually have his same age. Mostly, he has dated 18 to 21 year old girls. The worst case, was that he dated a 16 year old when he was 24. He assured me that she was quite "mature for her age", but I met her once and she didn't seem like that to me at all.

I also look rather young for my age, mostly because I am really short. In fact, after I told him my age for the first time, he appeared kind of shocked. I notice that my boyfriend likes it more when I dress and style myself in a more youthful way, and not like the grown woman I actually am and enjoy to be. When we watch porn together, he always gets more aroused by these teen-looking girls as well.

Anyway, I really love this guy, but I am just not sure about this. I just wanted to know what you people think. Is this normal? Should I keep being concerned about this topic?

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    He's probably into that Lolicon stuff too. O_o As someone stated before me, don't have kids with him, as a precaution.

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  • deepthought33
    9 years ago

    There is a reason so much porn involves younger looking girls. It is very common. He is fine unless you are noticing over obvious red flags. I don't worry that my personal fetishes are going to transcribe into reality and I think you can give him the benefit of the doubt. Also, you could talk to him.

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  • Couman
    9 years ago

    That's not even close to being pedophilia.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    Whatever happens, don't have kids with him.

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  • sillygirl77
    9 years ago

    Your boyfriend needs a psychiatrist.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    My question to you would be why are you still with him?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Technically pedophilia is defined by attraction towards children who have not gone through puberty yet.

    Attraction towards teenagers is called ephebophilia and is not classified as a mental disorder because while the attraction is considered normal, acting on it becomes questionable.

    In most U.S. states the age of consent is actually 16 although some are 17 or 18. It is only illegal to be in pornography before 18.

    In most of Mexico the age of consent is 12, which I think most people would agree is wrong, but Mexico is a strange place.

    I would say he is bordering at a cutoff point but I wouldn't classify him as a pedophile unless he wants to go to Mexico for some reason.

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