Is it normal that my boyfriend has a high heel shoe fetish?

Hi.

It's not porn. It's just a fetish. He likes nice shoes. I wouldn't get too upset about it; it is more common than you think.

It doesn't mean he doesn't like you; he just likes you even more when you wear the shoes.

is it actually controlling your life? Or its just dominating your sex life? I can't even see whats your problem clearly... He likes certain thing sexually and as far as i understand you are don't have a problem with it, so whats up?

it is not a fetish - but all women should always have on pumps no mater what else they are wearing or not wearing. Just the way it should be.

If it feels like the fetish is in control of your sex life and he can't "perform" without the "props" of you wearing them, then yes, something's wrong though it's unlikely that he will (or even can) change. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but if you feel like it's becoming a problem in your relationship, then you & he both may want to consider seeing a Psychologist. This would be for your benefit, to help you learn how he ticks, not to try to make him change. Sexual fetishes (and a high heel fetish certainly qualifies) are in fact quite common, though they manifest themselves differently in different people. The key is understanding. If you withold it, all you will do is drive him to cheat with someone more willing to indulge his fantasies than you and possibly risk having him come home with an STD. As you say, you knew about his fetish early-on in your relationship, so if it was OK then, why is it not OK now?

If I were female and in your situation and I really loved my guy, and all it took to keep him happy was for me to walk around in spike heels, I'd have a closet full of them. If he wanted me to step on things with them, I'd do that too. Good guys are scarce. Don't throw him away because he's a little twisted. Be thankful he doesn't knock you around or drink and chase women like other men. For a fun afternoon, take him shoe shopping and let *HIM* pick out something that he likes on you.

This is not a simple addiction like cigarettes that he can simply give up because you command him to do so. It's a mental paraphilia that he cannot control. It's simply part of his make-up. If you catch him looking at a pair of heels on some other gal, engage him in a conversation about them, i.e., "do you like those? - would you like me to have a pair like those?"

I agree I also have a shoe fetish especially some nice black patent ankle strap pumps.ummmm.....girl looks nice In that!!especially if she wears them to work

It's completely normal, one evening wear a pair of sexy pumps he likes and give him a shoejob with his dick between your shoes and let him cum all over them and then if you really want to turn him on, either lick it off yourself, get him to do it, or wear them to work the next day!

it is a fetish but feet and feet related fetishes are the most common and in that way they are about as normal as it gets outside routine sex.

If he has this fetish, be assured it will not go away. Do not see it as something thats in the way. you have the choice to avoid it and so have a barrier in your relationship or to accept it and play with it. Do not think he thinks more of shoes than you, it doesn't work like that, but he will think more of yo and need you more for taking part in his fetish,