Is it normal that my boyfriend hardly ever says he misses me?

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Is it normal that my boyfriend of 8 months hardly ever says he misses me? Even if I say it first? We usually hang out for at least 8 hours on the days we see each other and we usually see each other 4 days a week (about every other day). Even though we hang out so much I usually find myself missing him on the days in between us seeing each other and I'll say so through a text or over the phone, but he hardly ever says he misses me too.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    In a week, you spend more time with him than many people spend working. No wonder he doesn't miss you if he's constantly seeing you.

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  • theseeker
    10 years ago

    I'll bet he does miss you even though he doesn't say it. It could be he has difficulty showing his emotions. Some people have trouble with that type of thing, myself included.

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  • driedroses
    10 years ago

    I don't know why people are calling you clingy or saying that you spend SO much time with him. Seems like a normal amount of time to me?

    I think him not missing you like you miss him is just part of his personality.

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    • AutumnEquinox
      10 years ago

      His personality does seem to be on a different range than most peoples. He has a habit of extremely confusing me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    How can he miss you when you see each other so much! Maybe he will miss you after like a month of not seeing you?

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  • ifonlyuknew247
    10 years ago

    Just take it easy, relax, make yourself busy to keep your mind off him a little bit. Only text him once or twice per day with no response. If you notice after a month or so he still doesn't say it, and it still bothers you, let him know how you feel. He may not be reassuring you in enough ways that you are familiar to receiving love. If you still feel this way (in at least a month) talk to him and tell him how you feel. Hopefully he'll respond in a positive and mature manner, in which case you've got a great guy, or certainly a rare one.

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  • Heyjj
    10 years ago

    I only spend 1and sometimes 2 days of the week if we get lucky with my boyfriend (we are both very busy people). Just be happy that you get to see him all the time. But I do get it and idk why people are saying you're too clingy.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    You sound way too needy. Don't be surprised if he tells you he needs space sometime soon.

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    • AutumnEquinox
      10 years ago

      Perhaps I am a clingy/needy person, however I doubt he is going to tell me he needs his own space. Most of the time I even hint at not hanging out with him on a scheduled day he automatically asks a thousand questions as to why and slips in snide comments about another guy (no such guy exists).

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        Well, its good that he's not asking for space but, how do you feel about his jealousy?

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        • AutumnEquinox
          10 years ago

          It normally doesn't bother me, but sometimes I worry it may get him hurt. A truck went by us one day with about 3-4 guys in it and they all started yelling perverse things at me and he yelled at them to come back and try to say it to my face. While I appreciate his want to defend me, I'm highly glad that they kept going.

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          • RoseIsabella
            10 years ago

            Yeah, that's not a very wise thing to say. He sounds very egotistical.

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  • Sog
    10 years ago

    Uh oh, we got a stage five clinger over here!

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  • AutumnEquinox
    10 years ago

    I understand that I might seem clingy, but he basically acts the same way. It seems like the only difference is that while I accept and state my emotions, he hides his. Mainly the only thing he willingly says is that he loves, which he does probably say around 10 times a day. Mostly after I say it of course....am I reading to far into all of this? My last relationship was an epic fail and waste of 4 years.

    Oh and to the person who said I am young, it depends on what you consider young. I just turned 21 this month, so I completely understand where most people would say that I am.

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    • (s)aint
      10 years ago

      It's not too uncommon that girls are more open with their emotions than what guys are. I'm far more clingy than my boyfriend and he's pretty attached too, yet him and I hang out about as much as you and your boyfriend and surely he texts me that he misses me but I kinda feel as if he does this because he knows it makes me happy, at least on some occasions xD

      I'd say that you are reading to far into this, but if you are truly worried- Distance yourself from him a bit- Don't tell him that you miss him and love him without getting something first.

      If you feel as if you are too clingy, take a step back. if he follows he's a keeper.

      // The girl who's really clingy and cries when she's to leave his place xD

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  • AutumnEquinox
    10 years ago

    The days and hours we hang out have basically been scheduled since we started dating 7 months ago. With an occasional hour or two missing on those days due to a work or school conflict. Perhaps I am a clingy person, however I doubt he is going to pull away from me. On the days I'm "strong" enough to say something about us not hanging (to see if he'll miss me) he plays 20 questions and will get defensive until I make my best effort to at least see him for a little bit.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Give him a break! You don't even give him a chance to miss you!

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  • SkullsNRoses
    10 years ago

    Why would he miss you if he's seeing you 8 hours a day 4 days a week and texting you in between?

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  • mixwell
    10 years ago

    You're too sprung on him, serious thats such a turn off especially when you hangout 4 days a week. Sounds like you want validation and you're probably pushing him away by saying you miss him so often. I couldn't imagine if you had to go a week but based on your post you're probably young

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