Is it normal that my boyfriend feels depressed & is negative 24/7

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I am in a relationship with a guy who is very pessimistic & also has some anger issues. His debate (or reasoning on why he's that way) is b/c he's always been bullied growing up & b/c all the friends he's had have been negative in the long run (like his friends haven't been reliable). I guess his problem is that he has a lot of expectations so when things don't go through (or as planned) he gets upset & says all things end bad.

He also finds a flaw in everything. Any who, I was wondering what to do in such case!? I mean I don't know how to console someone who is always so angry at life & depressed. I actually suffer depression but I try to be optimistic as I can be. I mean my mom brought me up to always be strong & be positive. It's hard to see someone you love hate people around him or just doesn't enjoy what normal 21 year old's enjoy.

There's more but I don't want to overbear you hehe. I've told him to go seek therapy & just to talk to someone but he doesn't want to. :/

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  • ImPsycho
    10 years ago

    Show him that he can rely on you, show him that he can have great expectations about you and that he can actually count on you. And yes, fuck the hell out of him. I used to be pessimistic as fuck because I used to think of the world as a living hell and everyone else as soulless demons who were out there to eat my heart because my expectations would always be failed. Be an exception to all of his experiences in life. If that doesn't work out then he's just being a whiny asshole.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    You should fuck his brains out.

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  • bleach_baby
    10 years ago

    Fuck that guy. He sounds like a whiny asshole. You're young, don't waste yourself on someone like that - if he's not mature enough to even try and sort himself out (ie by going to a therapist) and just wants to burden you with everything instead he'll just end up dragging you down with him. Guys like this manipulate you into staying with them because you're worried about what they'll do if you leave them - get out before it's too late

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  • FunkyHuskyCoolGirlYuki
    10 years ago

    I'm the same way, for mostly the same reasons. I find flaws in EVERYTHING because everyone tells me I'm flawed and makes fun of me. I don't enjoy doing what normal teenagers enjoy doing. They most likely don't enjoy holing themselves up in their bedroom blaring music for days upon days.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    He most likely will never change. So you have to decide if you want to spend your years with him, accepting him as he is, or if you are looking for something else in a boyfriend.

    His experiences have shaped him into who he is today. He could be different one day--it is a possibility, but it would take a lot of work (maybe therapy), which he may not want to endure. It's not something he could do for you, but only for himself.

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