Is it normal that my boyfriend doesn't open up to me ?

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I love him so much and he loves me too. But the problem is that he doesn't open up to me neither let me talk to him about my problems. So many times he acts really annoyed I ask him what's wrong and he is like dont worry it's nothing about you or our relationship but I really can't talk about it. At first I felt like I should respect his privacy but now after getting engaged I guess we need to get closer and I need to know more about him since I'm supposed to spend my life with him. I also noticed that whenever I feel down and try to talk to him about that and vent a bit he starts pulling away discretely. I ignored that so many times then yesterday I shouted that I don't like this situation and I don't seem to trust him with my feelings and that I feel so insecure if he keeps behaving like this. Of course he got hurt and angry and stopped talking to me. So I'm so confused here, is his behavior normal and I'm overreacting ??

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Based on 21 votes (14 yes)
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  • flamer180
    8 years ago

    To be honest, like you said, he should be able to open up to you.
    I think lovers should be able to open up to each other and help each other.

    You can keep trying to get him to open up for him, and let him know you're there for him, and you'll understand him

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      8 years ago

      I always tell him that I am here for him and he knows how much I love him and support him. He also did so many great things for me. But the fact that we rarely discuss the feelings matters (except for how much we love each other and all the positive things) really annoys me. I want us to get close enough to not only talk about our joys but also our pains. Anyway I'll keep trying .. thnx flamer180

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      • flamer180
        8 years ago

        Alright cool, yea dont give up on him ;)

        Yea lovers should be able to help each other out :)

        n yup :)

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  • oikawa-tooru
    8 years ago

    some people really just don't like to open up. he might have his reasons, like me. people would often ask me why i won't open up, and i said it's because i didn't want to burden them with my problems. i hated being a burden to people. but i don't know why he won't let you vent out to him. maybe it's because he's too wrapped up in his own problems. saying your problems to him might give him more problems? i don't know. maybe he's the "i carry my own weight so you should carry your own weight" type of guy.

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    • flamer180
      8 years ago

      if he's that type of guy, then it doesnt sound like a strong relationship to me.

      like i said couples should be able to help each other out, not only can you possibly solve the problem, but you'll most likely feel closer to each other

      but i understand what you're saying about not wanting to be a burden

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  • Jujudog
    7 years ago

    its definitely either of two things. Either he hates the prospect of the embarrassment of admitting he has a problem or worries, or he knows you are far better off not knowing his thoughts. Hope for you its No.1

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