Is it normal that my boyfriend complains every hour of the day?

I'm in a relationship of 4 years. We just started living together, before that I had my own place. This relationship has been rough since the beginning. I have been abused physically but things got better. He now only slaps me when he thinks I'm too angry. I try to make the best out of everything, though I feel very unhappy. Things have calmed down in general, but he never seems to be happy with anything I do. Most of the days, he wakes up and the first thing that comes out of his mouth is nagging or complaining. Most of the days, nothing else than conversations like this occur. No sharing stories (I think he's not interested in me because every time I share something that's important to me, he stares at the tv or a plain shallow smile is all I get back), no "how was your day", no nothing. Due to mental health problems, I'm out of a job but I do want to get one as soon as I feel better. In the meantime, I do all the housework. I don't complain, I enjoy keeping everything clean. The only thing I complain about, is his complaining. It's never good enough. I just leave out one thing and the nagging starts. Then comes dinnertime. I loved cooking, I worked in a kitchen myself not long ago. But because of him, I started to hate it. Why? Nothing I cook is ever good enough. There's always something: "It's not enough, I don't like to eat that, I don't like chicken, I need this I need that I'm a working man that needs food every day". I can spend an hour preparing oven dish: "I don't like that. There's so much else in the house, why don't you ever cook something good?" Spaghetti? Forget it, never making that again (he's Italian and if it's not made how his dad makes it he shoves it away with a loud "YUK"). Rice with chicken and vegies? "I don't like chicken." Whatever I make, it's never good. I hate it. Every time I see it's getting close to dinner my stomach turns. One time he may like a dish, the other time he thinks it's disgusting. But he never appreciates what I prepare, doesn't just shut the fuck up and eat. Is this the example I want to give my children if there's ever going to be one? "Oh, I don't eat that mom, YUK and I can say so because dad also does!" He complains like a small child about every dish I have ever made! I can hardly remember times that he was happy. Then he starts to compare me with my sisters or other women: "Why can't you cook like them? Why can't you clean like them? You're not a housewife. You don't put in any effort!" But I can't say I'm holy than thou, I can get so angry about this until the point of screaming. Then again, this is happening for four fucking years. It's like a nightmare I can't wake up from. Last time, we both made a list of things to cook so I thought "Ok, we're finally getting somewhere." I cooked something on the list yesterday, guess what? IT WASN'T GOOD ENOUGH! I have Borderline, but it can't be that I'm always wrong, right? I clean, I cook, I try to do the best I can but it's never good enough! Besides, I have done many things despite my disorder (I have worked with people with disabilities, teens, children as an educator. We're not THAT horrible). When I'm not with him, I'm fine. I don't get angry as often and I don't want to kill myself. But with him and only with him, I just want to take all my meds and sleep forever. The constant nagging... mainly about the food and the comparisons with other women, the slap in my face when I get angry (because of his constant nagging) is this normal???