Is it normal that my boyfriend choose the boy i can be friend with ?

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Hi, i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and lately i've tried to meet new people because my current friends mostly don't care or take me for advantages. So i saw this guy at a Rock festival weeks ago and we started talking on the internet. He was a nice guy, he didn't flirt nor gave me one single compliment ! It was very casual ...and my boyfriend went mad at me for talking to him, even when i was home and totally bored. I told him many times i just wanted new friends, seems like he never heard me. He got annoyed anytime the guy would write to me. I decided not to take it too seriously, i've never been unfaithful to him and i'm not a flirty person. Then the other day i went to meet the guy and hes friends...but when i came back my boyfriend was pissed at me. He was very angry and anxious,he talked about me the whole night...he thought our relationship was in trouble and told me to never go see him again or completely delete him.The thing is, i feel like this unfair. Now i met another guy friend ...which he totally approved of ?!

Is this normal ?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    It is not normal for a guy to be so possesive but I can understand to some extent. Think about how you would see it if he suddenly, just out of the blue, started paying quite a bit of attention to another woman.

    Now if he has been doing this to you throughout your relationship then it is doubtful that his behavior will change now but if not then my advice to you is to assure him that this guy is just a friend. Make sure that while you two are together you are not occupying yourself with this new friend and have him come and hang out with you guys so he'll feel more comfortable with them. He should trust you enough not to have to have it proven to him that you're not up to anything but as I said, most people would feel a little odd about their girlfriend or boyfriend spending quite a bit of their attention on a member of the opposite sex so suddenly.

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    • foxyk
      11 years ago

      yes i agree u should bring your bf to hangout with the guys just so it will make him feel more comfortable

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  • Liza25
    11 years ago

    My bf chooses the guys I talk to also . It's normal but can get annoying . He just cares bout u and loves u but if he takes things too far ur relationship might be in trouble ....

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    So he's your boyfriend because????

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    • fullhouse
      11 years ago

      You are a funny guy..i lol'd :-)

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      • dirtybirdy
        11 years ago

        For cryin out loud! I'm not a Guy! People!!!!! I'm not!!!!!! I'm not yelling though.

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        • fullhouse
          11 years ago

          ROTFLMAO! geez .I am sorry :-) Saw your comments on some other post it was funny too..

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          • dirtybirdy
            11 years ago

            Haha its cool. I know I come across as an angry teenage boy. I'm OK with it :)

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  • Lady.Pemberlie
    11 years ago

    Your bf's a control freak. I would say he has low self-esteem enough to be that so jealous.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    I've dated guys like this before. It doesn't get better. If he can't work out his jealousy issues you might just want to move on..

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    No, this isn't healthy.

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  • boehawk
    11 years ago

    Who decided your friends didn't care or were taking advantage of you ? if it was your boyfriend and you friends didn't like him or think he was good for you and now he wants to say who you can have as a guy friend ? If so that's red flags for some serious controlling behavior . May be your old friends were jerks and you boyfriend is the greatest thing to happen to you, for your sake I hope so.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    I would be very suspicious myself. Y'all need to talk and figure out what each others' boundaries are. Compromise.

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    There's a good possibility your bf picked up something from this guy that you didn't notice. If he is fine with one and not the other, there's a reason.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      ^THIS! I had the same issue with my ex. She had a few guy friends that were totally awesome, most became my buddys even after we broke up. But there were a couple of shady *friendzoned* characters that i just had a bad feeling about. They were nice, they never flirted... but once we had an argument, they were always there to *comfort*.
      And there was a time when we took a couple of weeks break from one another and guess who made a move after almost 3 years of *innocent* friendship? both of them.

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      • iEatZombies_
        11 years ago

        Ex-friggin-xactly.
        Not every cautious guy is a raging jealous asshole.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      ^^^^^^^^^^^Probably right as a possessive person will not like any of them, but he's ok with one and not the other. Women are blind as bats when it comes to creepers, men are not so much.

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  • fartonmyface
    11 years ago

    I am with your boyfriend on this one. Men and women can't be just friends. It's a fact. One party or the other has some physical attraction and some intimate intent down the line. It's just the way it works with the opposite sex. To anyone who disagrees, you're just blind to the reality of it.

    The guy you're "friends" with probably is interested in you in more ways than you're interested in him. Men don't just befriend women who they aren't attracted to or want some type of future romance with. It's in our nature.

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