Is it normal that my boyfriend beats me down about my weight??

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First of let me say that I love my boyfriend very much. The only thing I have to complain about is that he is so self involved and cares so much about his appearance its starting to affect me.
I'm a thick girl, and I like being curvy, but my boyfriend and his family badger me about how big I am that I'm starting to hate myself. Did I mention I lost about 40lbs since november of last year? That was no easy task. I'm tired of feeling ugly, when before I met him I loved myself. I can't even be around the house in my underware near him without him giving me a disgusting look.
He told me I've become too comfortable with myself. Is it so bad that I'm.happy where I'm at? He calls me big, extra large, big and tasty and names like that.
I love him, but is love that great to keep enduring this? Or am I just afraid to be alone?
He keeps telling me that its only gonna get worst from here, and that if his ex wants him back, he'll jump on top of that..i feel so hurt right now writing this out on here.

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  • Jen118584
    12 years ago

    What the hell, how can you love this guy? This is emotional abuse. How can you think you love someone who openly tells you he'd leave you for his ex? For christ's sake have some self respect and dump this douchebag. He doesn't love you, he doesn't even respect you.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Tell him to F**k off to his ex and he can change her if she'll let him. This guy's a control freak and how dare his family comment on you. They may be slim but they have no manners or breeding. You just be yourself and let them find some other sucker to criticise!!

    Life's too short to deprive yourself of chocolate! But, if you do want to lose a few pounds for yourself you will do it without him being a rotten bully!!

    My husband says all men love curvy women and those who do like stick insects are closet gays coz they look like young boys :o) Maybe that's his problem! Tell him I said so!

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    • Uptight3552
      12 years ago

      Thank you, its finally coming to an end tonight...he called me every imaginable fat name in the book and told me he's been cheating on me in our bed..I'm leaving him! I'm fed up..he physically hurt me tonight..I'm too young to be miserable! & be trailer trash (no offense to anyone out there) but the girl hes supposedly screwing is one..
      I'm at peace, although im in pain :( im sure it will pass! :)

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago

    lol why he is goinh out with you if he dont like you?

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  • CillyMe
    12 years ago

    Be proactive and take the first step... dump him first. You need someone who loves you as you are. You don't have to take the abuse. Good luck!

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  • ruination
    12 years ago

    yeh.how big are you????

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  • Maribuck
    12 years ago

    Hell no thats not normal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Maybe if your weight was affecting your health, but even then he could approach it with kindness & respect.
    & that leaving you for his ex thing is BS, he's bad for you, leave his butt.

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  • Uptight3552
    12 years ago

    Aww thank you guys, those things are very encouraging..and for the person who asked how big I was, I'm not that big anymore ive lost 40 lbs already for myself, and I like how I am,if I were to lose a little more I wouldn't mind but right now I'm. working 2 jobs to make ends meet with my boyfriend, so that's my main concern.
    Im just fed up being mistreated..I'm a good girl, very genuine and loving and he takes advantage of me bc he knows ill put up with anything he throws at me..did I mention he's also bipolar?
    As for his family, they judge me based on looks which is messed up bc Ive been raised to never judge a book by its cover..you don't know how someone is based on looks, you have to get to know someone before just wailing judgement, right?

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    • joybird
      12 years ago

      Don't forget that no girl is good enough for their son! You sound like a lovely girl who doesn't deserve that crap. Does bipolar just mean he's nice one minute and nasty the next? What do you mean you're working 2 jobs WITH your boyfriend? Please don't tell me you live with this jack@ss!

      Love yourself, stash some cash and get ready to dump him at the first opportunity!

      To be frank, if he's giving you disgusting looks he's probably eyeing up other women and will dump you when some other fool agrees to take him on. Take control now, pleeeease!

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  • randomjelly
    12 years ago

    Besides the weight issue he mentioned that he would go back to his ex. Are you an idiot?

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  • m.a.s97
    12 years ago

    Dump him right away! Im tired of people thinking skinny is the best!Jerks like him don't deserve chances. Get a guy who appreciate your curves and don't ever put yourself down because of some loser.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    Obviously you two aren't right for each other. Find someone who values you for who are rather than looks.

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    Do you know what's going on? He has control of the relationship. You love him but you shouldn't.

    My advice is drop him because if he drops you first you can't handle that hurt. He need's to understand what he's doing is wrong.

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  • Andyailin
    12 years ago

    You love him but he doesnt love you. And i dont even think what you feel is real love. You Just afraid of being alone

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  • shreya
    12 years ago

    that guy is such a jerk.u know love is skin deep. u deserve a better person.just dump him.he is no good for you.just forget him.i know it will be hard but the time will heal.Don't worry that lDIOT absolutely does not deserve you.

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  • Dr.CuddleFish
    12 years ago

    not normal, you should talk to him about it it's not right for him to force it on you.

    be what you want to be.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    depends... how big are you

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