Is it normal that my boyfriend and i fight a lot?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two months and he has a huge temper. He can get so angry over small things, but it doesn't bother me. But I'm thinking maybe I should?

I have a very "fairytale" view on love. I think that if you can get so angry at someone that they bring out such a strong emotion in you. I think that if someone can't bring out this side of you, then you don't feel enough for them. I think hate is a huge form of love. I'm in love with this guy, and he says he's in love with me. Even though he gets so angry, he always manages to make me feel good at the end.

But is it normal to fight this much in the first place? It's like a new argument every week. Am I just naive?

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  • ggeineg
    12 years ago

    yes you are naive. Get out before its too late, anger turns to abuse in time. This is no fairytale. Plus two months of going out and you already have big fights?? It took me 6 months to even get annoyed with my bf for the first time let alone anger issues like your bf... Once again, I advise you it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. Good luck

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    You don't want a guy that has such a bad temper and such little control over it that you guys have seen it even after only going out for two months.

    This is how it starts, you lie to yourself in order to excuse his behavior. Then he starts breaking his stuff in your presence. Then he starts breaking YOUR stuff. Then he starts pushing you around and before you know it, you're lying to your co-workers about that black eye you've got. Maybe your guy will do it, maybe he won't, but if he doesn't have enough respect for you to control himself in your presence, should you even give him a chance?

    Ask yourself that.

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  • ishitpandas
    12 years ago

    Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months and we fight every single day since 4 months. But we r still happy and in love. Do what I do. Don't talk to each other for a day or two so the next time you guys talk you will be happy and excited. Or sit down and tell him your not happy what can you BOTH do to fix the relationship.

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  • UnwrittenPoet94
    12 years ago

    This is anything but a fairy tale. Iif he gets mad over little things and flips out, then he's clearly not listening to you and you're not communicating. Communication is VITAL. And if you pretty soon he'll quit screaming and threatening begin taking out his anger physically. Run while you still can.

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  • chatter289
    12 years ago

    me and my bf fought after 2 weeks or less of being together, but it was because of different views/strong character clashes. But with time, 2 years and a half we got to know each others ways and well, you tend to change and compromise on things. Im happy now, and when we fight it tends to be once a month or so rather than pretty much everyother day like we use to. This change was brought forth because im a very communicative person, i told him how i felt and how i viewed certain stuff, which would clash with his and have arguments' but in the end it was worth it because we understand each other..

    COMMUNICATION= KEY TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP... how can you be with someone when you cant truly tell them how you feel?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Do not waste another single minute of your life with this idiot!!

    NEVER be in a relationship with anyone who does not make you laugh every day, and is not out to make you happy! You are extremely naive!!! And I guarantee that you will look back on this relationship as a total waste of time. Use this relationship to learn what you DON'T want in your life and be more choosy in future. You are worth so much more and Mr Right is just around the corner but he can't come into your life when that piece of crap is preventing him from asking you out.

    Imagine being in a marriage with this psycho! If he's verbally abusive when you're dating he's likely to be violent when you're stuck with him!!

    Run girl now!!!

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    • Crudhouse
      12 years ago

      So...you're in a successful long term relationship?

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        Absolutely!!

        Dated my husband for 6 years (just to be sure) before we got married and we're married over 20 years.

        My husband would do absolutely anything to make me happy and although I don't go out to work he employs a housekeeper to help me around the house. He says 'A happy wife is a happy life' so if I'm happy he's happy!

        Very few people understand our sarcastic humour but I could count on one hand the number of arguments we have had - usually about him driving his motorbike too fast!!

        I had been in some really shitty relationships and the rule I laid down at the very beginning was - Don't ever speak to me in a way that you wouldn't speak to your friends! Therefore, if he doesn't shout abuse at his mates in the pub then don't shout it at me - Simple!! Found this works the very best :o)

        If the person isn't striving to make you happy every day, they are the wrong one for you!!

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        • Crudhouse
          12 years ago

          Sounds like a dream. I know of just one other couple like you...and the husband in that relationship says the same thing. Are you from Canada by any chance? Anyway good luck with it

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  • kyanviado
    12 years ago

    Move on there are more out there he ain't no Aladin

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