Is it normal that my boyfriend..?

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I've been living with my boyfriend for a couple of months. The first few months he treated me really bad. Our relationship started getting better, and eventually we were getting along. He started treating me really good and we actually started acting like a married couple. Now he's changed again. He calls me annoying, he has a really short temper, always angry, always blaming me for things and fights, always trying to make me look bad, always attacks me over everything. Sometimes things would get so bad that I'll pack my things, he'll refuse to let me leave and push me or hold me down or keep me locked in one room or one area until we make up again. When i review his abusive behavior with him, he claims that I was attacking him and he was trying to hold me down. He also thinks I'm crazy. I only put pressure on him when he makes moves. I just try leaving and he just blows. Is this normal? Does anyone know what could be his problem? He gets super upset when his mom buys something from the groceries that he doesn't like. I don't know.. He also makes big deals out of small ones. I can't go for a walk and lay back on the bed wearing the same pants I wore outside. He's always attacking me about everything and I'm scared this could lead to something worse :/

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  • sailorvenus
    12 years ago

    My ex was like that. By the time I eventually have the courage and amazing support to leave him, a lot of things he did had left quite a scar in me and now I regret not leaving him sooner. In fact I regret ever wasting my time with him at all. He did almost everything you listed up there, and it gets worse from there.

    If you think destroying yourself is justifiable for you to be with him then by all means tolerate, forgive and love him with all your might while praying that one day he might just see how wonderful and how deserving of you to be loved and treated well that he might just start to really treat you like a lady; not being nice for a month and treat you like dirt the next month.

    Or if you feel the contrary, find the strength in you to walk out of his life and never come back. Find support if you feel you don't have the heart to stay away from him. Whatever your choice might be, I wish you well.

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  • jensapa
    12 years ago

    Get out while your still in one piece! Get help from your friends/family to get away from him and if he becomes a problem get a restraining order.

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  • imustbnutz
    12 years ago

    Psycho! that's scary.. sneak off when he is asleep. Its now or never =(

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    • Nitastar
      12 years ago

      I agree

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  • jakeupp
    12 years ago

    I need you to do this, stay up until very late with your bags. Drug him with sleeping pills, when he passes out get In a car and get the he'll out of there, block his phone number and make sure he dose find out where you are.

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  • lconyers
    12 years ago

    If you want an answer to what could be mentally wrong with him, he could be bi-polar, manic deppressive, Borderline personality disorder, hell, he could be full blown sociopathic. That's no longer the issue here though...

    If you want to know why he treats you badly, calls you names, verbally abuses you locks you in rooms,(WTF??!), and now puts his hands on you....the answer is simple, because your still there to take it.

    I'm going to end this rant by paraphrasing a line from The Fugees album, The Score...

    If yet let a mothafucka kick you three times, he's gonna kick you three times, you let him kick you twice, he's. gonna kick you twice, you let him kick you once, he's gonna kick you once...
    But if you break off the mothafuckin feet....ain't gonna be no more kicking goin on kid

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  • gloomydust
    12 years ago

    Hot lines don't do anything.
    He's not abusive bit he he acts out when he's angry (during a fight) >.> that's what I meant! I can't delete this post or edit it! I was pissed at the time I wrote it too so like.. If you guys still want to answer this, do it. I just wanted to know if anyone else knows someone who gets just as angry as my bf, and what his condition could possibly be! Damn

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    • imustbnutz
      12 years ago

      You are in major denial. Even just that little snippet of your life was enough for all of us to see how your bf is a ding dong and you still just won't have it?! I guess some of us just love to learn the hard way aye

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    u can get help from domestic abuse organizations. even if he hasnt physically abused you. you should at least call a hotlibe abd talk to them like u have us!

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  • gloomydust
    12 years ago

    I only listed the things that he did wrong. But he changed.. Again. Now he's nice and stuff. I think many of you misunderstood me. I was just wondering if it's normal for someone to be so angry all the time. And I was hoping someone knew a condition or something about it?

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    • imustbnutz
      12 years ago

      ok, no its not normal..Do you really want to be his mummy. A good way to see how your partner will be towards you in the future is by watching how they treat their parents. For us females we would watch how they treat their mother. He sounds like a spoilt little shit who throws tantrums when he does not get his own way! Thats his condition. Just read the signs girlie. Don't be another dummy.

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    • metallover1991
      12 years ago

      No, he didn't change. He's just gonna continue this horrific behavior and carry it to his grave, because that's how abusers are. Leave him and file a fucking restraining order against him, now!

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  • cookiesaregreat
    12 years ago

    end it, now!

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    Dump the jerk off.

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  • Starshine
    12 years ago

    Abusive relationship?

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