Is it normal that my boyfriend...

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Ok so its been awhile since i have had a serious question such as this one. My boyfriend and i have been dating on and off for over 10 years now, when we first got together everything was like a dream but i admit i was young and messed it up by cheating on him. We had children together and for awhile we tried going our seperate ways.. We always ended up trying to date again. Anyway this most resent time it seems has gotten a bit out of hand, he is unaffectionate, hardly ever wants to spend family time with me and our kids its like he is in his own world. Awhile ago he was diagnosed with adhd and blames everything on it...He is constantly on his phone texting god knows who then complains when i dont do laundry or clean house right. When even our children see all he does is play on his phone or compiter after he gets home from work. I really need help on this one please, it has gotten so bad as to the point where there is no longer any four play in our sex lives. He just pretty much tells me to take off my pants and puts it in... i cant stand being treated like crap but i dont wanna loose my family again... What should i do?

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  • TheGuruOfTheSauce
    12 years ago

    "compiter"? does not compute...We'll its because you're a rotten monster I'm sorry but you should have realize that cheating on someone makes you a fool and a coward sorry but karma just took a little bit more time to be implemented but what you think you had is non existent and he doesn't love you hes using you and look around lady children between two people doesn't mean anything so don't use that as a pull thinking it changes something you gave him a death sentence with children and now the kids are exposed to how much shit he does not give, I'm sorry but its over and adhd has nothing to do with it he just doesnt love you and rather spend time being himself than with his kids and you.

    separate and start over with other people you lost your chance so hang your head kick a rock shrug your shoulders and stare at the ground with tears in your eyes because you made a bad decision so now you need to manage it like an adult

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  • ChasingAfterPond<3
    12 years ago

    Im sorry to say it but it sounds like you need to leave him and move on. Not a healthy relationship. The river has dried up. So try to find someone new that is nice(: good luck(:

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Tell him to get the fuck off his lazy ass, go in the kitchen, and help out around the house. If he doesn't do that find someone else. There are so many worthy men out there. Don't be stuck with a worthless loser.

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  • ballparkdogg
    12 years ago

    I have a mild form of Asperger's Syndrome and Adult ADHD and I don't treat my girlfriend like that. I have learned to adapt to my circumstances. Seems like he found an easy way to blame everything on and not take responsibility for his actions. I would really think hard on continuing your relationship. You deserve better and Don't settle.

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  • kyanviado
    12 years ago

    How can he blame it on ADHD, I have it and I do house chores too

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  • smexibabe
    12 years ago

    Tell him where 2 go if he thinks u aren't cleaning rite tell me 2 get the fuck or do it himself it ain't ur job he needs 2 help or leave just tell him straight lots of nice men out there y have him

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  • pegger
    12 years ago

    just tell him do one theres much nicer men out there. like you said he doesnt like family time so kids aint goin miss him good luck

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  • ThatUglyDoll
    12 years ago

    Pretty soon it will be 20 years!

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  • cheetahwings5479
    12 years ago

    Always choose your soulmate wisely....

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Hey OP! You're behaving like a typical woman! You think that he has some kind of loyalty to you coz you have kids to him - wrong!! He's just there coz it's convenient for him. You are a doormat and a fool.

    Life is too short to be with someone that doesn't make you laugh every day. Think what you are teaching your kids! How they should treat women, or what they should accept from men.

    Throw him, his phone and his computer out the door ASAP!
    You need to grow a set of balls and stand up for yourself and your kids!!

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago

    Can't stand being treated like crap? Oh I'm sorry, we're you caring about his feelings when you cheated on him? Do you even know what it's like to go through that? Would you care for and respect him if he did that to you?

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    • Its_Called_Love
      12 years ago

      Wow I've been cheated on extensivily, and I can say thats harsh. She cheat when they first got to together 10 YEARS AGO! Since then, they broke up and got back together. I say its his fault because if he couldn't get over what had happened then he shouldn't have chosen to go back. Plus think of their children, do you think its healthy for their kids to see their mom treated that way? Of course not, I say you should leave him, because I can promise you it will only ever get worse.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    Qui seme le vent recolte la tempete.

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  • ohdamnit
    12 years ago

    tell him to get off his lazy ass and clean

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    get marriage counseling.
    just because you're not legally married doesn't mean you can't benefit from this.

    but understand that it won't just be about what he's doing wrong but about what you're doing wrong too.

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