Is it normal that my boy friend wants to find woman friends ?

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A couple of days ago I sat down at our laptop wanting to go onto my facebook page and play some games, well my boy friends facebook page was logged on so I checked his messages (not one of my brighter ideas) and found that he had began a conversation with a woman from phillipenes, and he started the conversation out like this " hi, I have been wanting to talk to you for a long time", well of course reading that my heart sunk and was upset and a bit annoyed (ok more than a bit), so I asked him about it, I asked why he has the need to have "friendships" with woman (his bff is a woman) and he said he "just wanted to make friends"...well it didn't sit well with me and so began the cold shoulder on my part.
I have asked him over the last few days why, why he can not find men to be friends with and if he was looking for "friendship" why he started the conversation with her " hi, I have been wanting to talk to you for a long time".
I don't know but sounds like he wants it to be a bit more.
I have exspressed my feelings to him and how this hurts me, we talked some after two days of my ignoring him, thought that he would think to him self ..this online woman is not worth me loosing some one or at least hurting someone. And sadly to say I checked his email again last night and he talked to her again only adding to her "good night, sweet dreams"

Totally disappointed and hurt

Is It Normal for a 41 yrs old man to want only female friends?

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27% Normal
Based on 49 votes (13 yes)
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  • rawisjericho
    12 years ago

    Why are women so stupid?

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    All that spacebook and myface stuff causes so much trouble!

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  • Oli
    12 years ago

    I try not to have a problem with my boyfriend gaving lady friends. But physical contact like hugs make me edgy. Probably because I've been burned in the past by guys flirting/getting erections from other girls in the past...

    Thing is, I don't understand why your boyfriend wants to make friends from all over the world. "Hi I really wanted to talk to you" would give me red flags, because either he's been staring at her profile or he just saw it and wanted a weird ice breaker. You don't have ice breakers like that.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    There's a chance that he wants to be friends and another where he has feelings for this woman. It does sound rather suspicious.

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    That sounds really suspicous if your boyfreind wants to find CHICK freinds when he has a girlfreind . If he happens to make chick freinds randomly when he with you thats a diffrent story but to intetionlly look for new women freinds when he with you is very fishy , you should watch him or better yet dump him he sounds very disloyole , if he wanted make more GUY FREINDS . thats resanable but if he is LOOKING FOR CHICKS , he soudns liek a asshole id dump him right theire "

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  • Blackwargreymon
    12 years ago

    I'm a guy who also prefers lady friends over the male version. My bf is lady(something my gf first found hard to understand) and I don't really hang out with any male friends.

    I send messages to girls with "sweet dreams" and always end my texts with 3X's.

    So yeah the female friends thing is pretty normal, sending the messages is pretty normal. Hell I even said 'I love you' to some of my female friends. My gf knows about it and it is all good.

    In the end it depends on what kind of guy he is. And you probably know him a lot better;) The acts itself are very normal from my perspective.

    To close and not as offence, but reading messages is kind of a privacy no-no. And I'm surprised he accepted that so easily. And I don't know if ignoring is the most constructive thing to do, might distract him from the real problem and might make him self righteous on the 'self pity' gotten from you ignoring him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with this.
    Stop being so insecure... Damn

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    'Our laptop' sounds like you live with him?!

    Has he nothing better to do; mow the lawn, walk the dog, watch tv, decorate, prepare dinner, etc...

    Sounds like the devil's making work for his idle hands (and mind).

    Turn the bloody thing off and cancel both your facebook accounts and concentrate on each other!

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  • hellostrangers
    12 years ago

    He is using you for convenience while he looks for new girlfriends. You are an idiot. Might as well dump him before he dumps you, sounds like it is going to happen real soon.

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  • horsedick.mpeg
    12 years ago

    That really isn't odd at all guys like girls more than other guys so ya

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago

    If he is thinking of getting away from you, maybe it's because you're being far too controlling. From his point of view, you think he's cheating on you with every girl he talks to, and he's gonna get angry at your lack of faith in him.

    If you don't want to lose him, stop trying to own him. This is tue best advice I can give you

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago

    Ignoring him doesn't make him confide in you more, if anything it probably makes him want to be much less open and honest with you if you respond by ignoring him during a disagreement.

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  • Ramit10
    12 years ago

    Yeah whats wrong with guys wanting women friends. Stop spying on him for one he doesnt do it to you. You just dont trust him enough thats all. I have lots of girl friends and my gf is fine with it cause she trusts me and I also will say goodnight sweet dreams to them there is nothing wrong with that other than its a nice thing to say.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    I don't know about your last question, but I'm a girl who has more guy friends then girls, so I'm more comfortable having guy friends.

    Anyway, I don't think you should really be worried about it. I doubt he's gonna drop you if he finds some other women to be friends with. Meeting more new people doesn't really mean that you're meeting them to push out the old.

    And I agree with joybird about canceling the facebook. They only cause problems anyway. Maybe you both should take a break from it for a while.

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