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I'm a virgin and when my boyfriend and I mess around, I will get turned on but not actually feel any pleasure. He's the first person I've been with in any way, so everything we do is the first time for me. Will it get better?
well, your body is getting ready for intercourse.
but pleasure, well...i don't know WHAT you expect. do you feel "pleasure" when you are cuddling with him, close by? Do you feel pleasure when he whispers into your ear that he loves you? Do you feel pleasure when you fall asleep in his arms while watching TV?
Do you feel pleasure when masturbating? Do you climax while masturbating and is THAT the kind of pleasure you mean?
naturally, being sexual with another person, wether intercourse or just petting, should be "pleasurable", but there are lots of different kinds of pleasurable. One person might prefer the cuddly kind of pleasurable and enjoy soft touches and strokes. Other people like a more "sporty" approach and only ever feel satisfied if they are basically exhausted at the end...
Find what works for you, but be aware that the "pleasure" traditionally referred to comes in large parts from a build-up of tension with according physical and mental response and release in the form of one or more orgasms. It's a package deal, where the WHOLE thing counts, but it's not out of nowhere that many people would find intercourse without "coming" unsatisfactory/less satisfactory.