Is it normal that my bf keeps mentioning that he likes big tits

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Hello, i am a 30 yo F, my boyfriend is 32. We used to be close friends for a year then we started dating, and it's been 3 years now. I have struggled at first with loving him as he is totally the opposite of what i find attractive in men.

But when love knocked my heart, i suddenly stopped caring about how he looks and i even started to find some small details attractive about him, and i always made sure to compliment him whenever he is naked cause i know he had a bad self image when he was younger as he is a redhead and used to be a fat kid until his 20's.

For me, it was the opposite, in my younger age, i had always many compliments about my body and i am not going to lie i was also very self critical. But it wasnt a problem before as my previous boyfriends were always showering me with compliments and i never had insecurities about my body specially my tits.

My tits are small cup (cup B), i always wished they grew a little bit bigger but never obssessed over how to make them look bigger until i met my recent boyfriend. He obviously loves big boobs and he keeps mentioning that next to me and i never had a problem with that before, but it's becoming to an extent that i feel disrespected. He once mentioned that he used to see an actress as average beauty until once he saw her boobs and she looked damn hot and he sees her now sexy.

Throughout our talks, whenever a girl is mentioned, it looks like his standard of beauty is always dependent on if the girl has big tits or not and that made me question what he feels about mine and how unattarctive they look to him?
I know guys love big boobs, if i was a guy I would love big boobs too. They're fun!! buuut i know for a fact that a booby is a booby for guys and although they might have a preference they still enjoy touching them if it's there. And that's the opposite of what my boyfriend does. He bearly touches them, bearly compliments them, bearly even look at me while i am naked. I have mentioned once next to him about how i would like my boobs to grow a bigger size and he was like i wish!!! That wasnt nice of him as this implies that he doenst appreciate my body. When i told him well, i wish i can do something about it and seemed a bit desperate he then said he loves me the way I am, but that didnt seem truthful. It looked like he was trying to just be supportive.

Also, i caught him many times looking at some friends tits without them noticing. He doesnt flirt with them, he is a very respectful guy, but it looks like he enjoys the conversation with them. And that was All Okay with me. BUT once, he started to loose focus while talking when there was a girl with big tits around and intentionally stood up in front of her while she was sitting trying to have a better view without her noticing. THe girl noticed and I, my self was so embarrassed!

All what i am trying to say is that, i was never that self conscious about my body before him, i never used to compare my tits to every woman i meet when he is around. I talked to him about it and it didnt go well as i threw everything at him at once. He gave me that pathetic look like i am insecure and apologised and said he will never mention big tits anymore. So I told him DO NOT EVER LOOK AT ME AS I AM INSECURE. YOU JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO TREAT A WOMAN.

I am not sure where this came from and why i treated this subject with him this way. We count ourselves a mature couples, we used to bearly have any significant fights. I feel embarrassed that i actually faught with him over this silly subject. It's just pisses me off that after 3 years i am the one who feels insecure because of him, while he can walk totally naked in front of me and he'll get all the compliments in the world! Literally! I got fed up from him mentioning every girl with big tits he meets or sees also.

Is it normal what i am feeling or
am i insecure and acting childish?

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  • Whatintarnation
    4 years ago

    Well there's only one thing to do. Start talking about the big wiener of an old boyfriend and how you like that. Then give him a look of disappointment. Maybe that will resonate with him.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    4 years ago

    Why not just ditch him? I've seen shit like this before where someone dates someone who's not their normal preference and it's going to develop into either:

    A) Them asking their partner to become the preference they want

    B) Them ditching their partner for another person that is their preference or

    C) Staying with their partner but being miserable and making their partner miserable.

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    • Kurtyy
      4 years ago

      When i confronted him he was totally shocked cause i was always kinda cool about it. It really didnt bother me before but it's starting to trigger me a lot lately and affecting myself image. But i dont think he does this intentionally. Some guys told me that men with little experience with women might act so oblivious which might be the case here. So you think this isn't going somewhere good? I think after this confrontation he will never mention anything about big boobs again, but i am not sure this will solve the issue anymore :/

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      • Cuntsiclestick
        4 years ago

        I'd still ditch him. His preference seems to be set in stone, and it's probably going to be a problem again in the future.

        You can stick with him if you wish and see if he stops, but like I said, I've seen this shit before and it doesn't end well.

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  • XYXY
    4 years ago

    It’s simple, you openly admit you would like bigger boobs but we get what we get. Next time he says something detrimental or disrespectful say something along the lines of, why can’t you accept me for how I am with my small tits and compliment me on them instead of trying to make me feel bad about my body, I always make nice compliments about your body because I know it’s not your fault you have a small dick. All of my previous boyfriends had full size dicks not like you with your little action man thing, I’m fed up with pretending it’s big enough just to make you feel good about yourself, I love you for the person who you are not the size of your dick because let’s face it, if that’s all I cared about you wouldn’t get off the start line, but you’re a good man so I love you for the person inside, why can’t you do the same for me?

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    4 years ago

    Put it in perspective it isnt the worst problem in the world to have. It sucks but to have a successful relationship you have to lower your standards abit. Its not always gonna be perfect and there's always gonna be things you dont appreciate and you have to sort them out and find solutions. My and my wife have had similar issues going both ways. Its always really awkward to talk about them to your spouse and it gets put off until you blow up.

    Also be very mindful that when people ask relationship advice on this website most of the people here always tell the poster to dump their spouse. You need to take in consideration that these people that post this are all single. Ive been in a longterm relationship and when I ask relationship advice I usually ask other people that have had a successful and long relationship. Sometimes when you ask those that dont have a relationship you have to wonder if they're capable of good advice on the subject.

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  • cupcake_wants
    4 years ago

    He is obviously immature, especially for his age. By the time a guy is in his 30's, especially with his gf/wife, he needs to tone that down. He's acting like a 13 year old maturity level. If that was me, I would consider moving on from this guy. I don't know how the whole rest of the relationship is though. His dad should have taught him this, or perhaps his mom. Anyway, he needs to grow up!

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  • KholatKhult
    4 years ago

    I have a 3rd grade reading level

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  • Mammal-lover
    4 years ago

    Was reading but then the first paragraph dodnt end and I lost interest

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