Is it normal that my best friend pushed me to be in a relationship?

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I am a man and I live with a woman who is my best friend. She had a woman friend and thought we would be perfect for one another. She played matchmaker and talked us both into seeing each other. I like the woman, but I wonder if I like her only because she fits in with my group of friends. We are rarely one on one. I like the sex, but I am really not that attracted to her. What should I do?

Let it play out. It won't last, and its good for now. 8
Break it off. Don't let other people run your life. 16
Talk to your roommate and tell her your concerns. 5
Just keep moving along. It sounds like a good relationship. 6
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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Your relationship is between you and the woman you're boning, not your friend (even though she's the one that set you up). So if you talk to anyone about it, it should be the woman. But you really should ask your friend to stop setting you up if you don't like it. Grow a pair and set some boundaries with her. It won't be difficult: tell her that instead you'd like to find someone on your own next time.

    Give the woman the benefit of being the first to hear about the bad news, then you can tell your friend about it.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    You are all right. I think I am more angry at my roommate. I am tired of her dictating my life, and my friends lives. She can be nice, but we all do what she wants. I don't feel like I can bring a woman home unless she approves of her. It sucks.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      I hope everything worked out for you. I'm sorry I told you to "grow a pair" - that was uncalled for. I meant it in a casual way but it is not fair that I marginalized the effort it takes to confront someone who is bothering you. It can be very difficult, especially if you're angry at them.

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  • Corleone
    11 years ago

    I can't tell you what to do, since I don't know your girlfriend. But if you're wondering about your friend's behavior: it's common for female friends to do that. My best female friend constantly wants to set me up with people, but she gives the worst love advice. Don't go out with someone because you think you have to.

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  • nervous1
    11 years ago

    suggest a three way. it will either show you if your friend is interested in sex with you or cause her to stay out of your afairs. win/win right?

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  • TorothePekingese
    11 years ago

    A while back my friends pretty much forced me into a reltionship with my so-called 'perfect-match', it was okay for a while until we drifted away (thankfully, dear god, he talked so flippin' much!!). I feel your pain, man... Except for the fact that I'm a girl... so...yeah... I'm going to go now...

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