Is it normal that my best friend keeps insulting me?

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My best friend and I text and talk to each other all the time, but sometimes she says the most insulting stuff ever to me. She always calls me a hoe or a bitch at least 5 times a day, or says a really mean statement about me.
For instance, about 5 minutes ago, I told her that a website compared me to a celebrity and she laughed, saying I looked nothing like her, and that the only two things we had in common were that we're both two-faced and worthless. She said she was joking, but it still hurt.
I don't want to loose her as my best friend, because she means so much to me, and other than her insulting me, she's a damn good friend.

Shrug it off! She probably doesn't realize she's hurting you. 21
Tell her how you feel. 106
Maybe you two should stay as friends. 5
She seams like a terrible person. Ditch her. 90
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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    She wasn't joking, she was being a bitch. She was just playing it off afterward. Poorly, I might add.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    My friends and I insult each other but only to keep each other grounded, and only about things that are true (like the time one of us had green shoes that looked ridiculous). Your friend doesn't sound like she's trying to be honest with you; she sounds like she's trying to hurt you. Probably because of problems she herself has. Have you told her how this is making you feel?

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  • smellypillowgirl
    9 years ago

    Tell her it is hurting your feelings. If she laughs it off drive the point home and if she still doesnt listen bin her off, ive done it and now im a much happier person having separated the wheat from the chaff, or the chav in her case. she was trying to embarass me in front of her mates. bad,bad move. Now she is gone out my life. hoorah for me.

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    stick up for yourself

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    11 years ago

    Sounds like a very nice, cheery person.

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  • drugsrbadmkay
    11 years ago

    She's not your friend she is only pretending to be your friend. She's using you for something or other. When she insults you it means she slipped up and let her real feelings for you out. Ditch the bitch and find a real friend.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Friend? really? i don't think so. Ditch the itch feel the relief

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    If she's otherwise a good friend, I'm sure she'll understand and not be too offended when you talk to her about it. If you value her friendship you should talk to her about it before you ever think about ditching her. If she seems unhelpful and unchanging after that, I would seriously consider breaking ties.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Honestly, she might have those feelings for you (that you are two-faced and the like) and she may not be admitting them to you. There is good natured insulting and there is honesty, but some of what she said sounded like she might actually have some kind of conflict with you that she does not have the courage to confront you with.

    I would say to you that you should ask her how she really feels about you and tell her that the things that she says really hurt. She might retaliate with sarcasm and more insults because people like that tend to do this as a defense mechanism, but hold firm and hold your ground and do not let her intimidate you. She will know that she is wrong and she will have to deal with the issue. If she can't do that than it may not be in your best interest to continue your friendship with her.

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