Is it normal that my best friend died at 15?

I know exactly what you mean. After losing my closest friend, he was all I could think about for a while.

I kept his picture on my dresser, and every night before sleeping I'd look at it and remember - good times we had, what it was like when he entered a room, whatever little things I could recall.

Gradually, I began to focus on other matters. I wouldn't look at the picture every night, and soon I realized that I'd gone a whole day without thinking about him for the first time.

No matter how hard you try to hold on, eventually the day comes when you forget what it felt like for them to be alive. Time heals all wounds, even those you don't want to heal.

In my experience, what you're feeling 42 days after sounds perfectly normal.

Even now (2 years later) I can only think about my friend in a very detached way. It's how my brain prevents me from getting too close, because it knows how much pain it'd cause if I really remembered. But that doesn't mean I've forgotten. This is what it's been like for me anyway.

Grief affects everybody differently, so don't let anyone (even yourself) tell you that what you're feeling is wrong. Unfortunately, forward is the only direction we can move in life.

I'm sorry :( I'm sad now. I couldn't imagine losing a friend so young. I don't really think your forgetting her, your just healing. Youl always remember her I'm sure. I just really don't know what to say :(

Which are you asking about? The fact that your friend died so young, or the fact that you're starting to forget?

Cancer is a horrible thing. It can strike anyone, anytime, and it doesn't care how young you are.

As for the forgetting... I think it's just your mind's response to grief, and you're not alone in it. I hope you can overcome this and learn to remember again someday once the pain has faded, because certainly your friend deserves to be remembered. Don't beat up on yourself though.

She wouldn't want that.

I feel for you I recently lost my bff

Im sorry and I know how you feel its been a week and a half since I lost my buddy(19) I knew him for 15 years and Its still a shock to all of us it not the same not seeing him around town. Just have to keep all the memories you had together. I have a lot with my buddy and ill never forget them.

I'm supprised the doctors couldn't treat her properly!, isn't cancer suppose to be treatable so you can live a long productive life, doctors suck these days!

My best friend died :( lol not really

I'm sorry for loss! It's not normal because a lot of people don't lose there best friend at a young age like 15. You're very strong!

I am sorry that you experienced this and sorry you lost a good friend. Death is a part of life, we all leave this life at some point or another and it can happen if you are 2, 10, 18, in your 20's, 30's....anytime anywhere....all you can do is live the best life you possibly can, love yourself be good to yourself, and make sure your loved ones know you love them while you and they are still alive....

Thanks everyone :/
I really really appreciate everything you guys wrote <3

My friend died at the age of thirteen in a car accident :( I know how you feel :'(

No. it's not normal to die so young. (So yes, I did vote "no" but only because of that)

*hugs* Losing someone you really care about hurts.

As for forgetting... That will come and go. Right now your mind may be blocking off memories of her because they bring you more pain than happiness.

i would personally recommend talking to someone - a counselor, clergy member, someone you can really open up to. Everything you are feeling is a normal part of grieving. Even being angry - at your friend, at god, at the world - is normal.

Do not punish yourself for what you are feeling.

i heard someone say that God takes the best early

I'm really sorry about your friend. :( I can understand why you're in shock, and its completely normal for you to still be thinking of her. Recovering from a loss takes time. Sometimes it takes others shorter, sometimes longer. I honestly think that you should speak with your school counselor about this. Even if you're not completely traumatized, its still good to speak with someone.

I'm sure you'll never foreget her, and the great memories you both had together. You might not remember her scent, and a clear vision of her face, but it'll probably slowly come back to you if not today, then someday later. These kind of things we never forget. Shes probably watching over you. But she probably would also want you to be happy. And of course its hard to accept that she died so young, and of something so horrible, but theres a reason for everything, and it was her time to go, unfortunately. But shes probably at peace right now. Now, all the people shes left behind, need to find peace.

I think you're in shock not only because she was your friend, and that she was so young, and it might've even been sudden. But I think part of the reason for your shock is that you're trying very hard to understand why. The only advise I could give you for that is, don't. Don't wonder why. Don't continuously ask yourself why, or try to find reasons. Death is so unexplainable, and thats probably one of the reasons why people have such a difficult time getting over the pain of losing someone. :( Speak with your school counselor, it probably will help you a lot. I'm sorry.

Sorry for your loss, I can't imagine what you've been through. If I was in your place I'm not sure I would've pulled through. :(

Everyone has a different way of grieving, so I think it's normal to an extent. The pain has faded, but that doesn't mean you'll completely forget her. She sounds like she was a nice girl who deserves to be remembered.

its a terrible thing such a tragedy to pass so young. my best friend died at 17 and i understand some of what you must be feeling. the shock the numb feeling that robs the soul of joy, later , like me, you may smile at happy memories

I can't imagine the feeling, but I expect I'd be devastated if any close friend of mine died :( I'm sorry for you.