Is it normal that my "almost gf" cheats on me?

She's not interested in a relationship with you. Leave her now and save yourself more drama and heartbreak. Find someone who appreciates you.

No its not bloody normal

I was an ice queen when I was in high school but for some reason I still managed to end up with at least half a dozen "options" I wasn't interested in at all. Here's my take:

You two have been together for "a long time". She said "I love you" BUT also said that she doesn't "know you well enough yet". Can you love someone when you've got a deadline in mind for when exactly she'll know you well enough? Why is the deadline Christmas? Is it because then she can expect a pretty present and a guy to show her parents?

I doubt Pancake Boy's the only other guy she's ever acted on. He might be the only one you know of but there are probably a few more who rejected her (or met up with her without your knowledge).

If she's really into you, she'll likely want to make things exclusive ASAP (assuming she can pass it off as "within a sensible timeframe" - which is culturally-sensitive).

This is probably pretty hard to read and I'm sorry you've put up with this. You sound like a sweet guy to respond as you did when she apologised. I'm inclined to believe that most people would've ended things or closed the door in her face.

You should distance yourself from her. It's not a good idea to get straight into dating other girls since you don't really have the mindset for it at the moment, you've been relegated to second/third/fourth/nth option by the girl who "loves" you. Spend some more time working on yourself. Go to the gym, try a new sport, whatever. It'll make you feel better and more attractive.

TLDR; it's normal to feel this way but honestly she's keeping her options open for someone she finds more "promising". If you were her first choice, she wouldn't pull the "wait for Christmas" card. Distance yourself and focus on self-improvement before you start dating again.

She's playing you like a fool. Here's the deal; at 19 y/o, I would have been exactly the same as you. You don't realise how much you have going for you and that *you have a duty to yourself not to put up with this shit*.

I know you think you like her a lot. But this bitch kicked you out to hook up with another guy. It doesn't matter if you were technically exclusive/not exclusive - in fundamental human nature terms, that shit is NOT OK. And you putting up with it, just gives her license to continue. So you're telling her that it's ok, and it is not. Even though she may have convinced you that it is, or that it's your fault, or whatever.

No, the only thing to do is move on to another girl/girls. This will help get your mind off her, and may increase her interest in you (if you want to hook up with her again). At the very least, create some distance, disinterest and don't allow yourself to be treated like that. I know it's not all bad, but for eg: if she texts you about some artist she could hook up with, *ignore her*.
If she texts saying she wants to be in a relationship, leave it for two days and then say you're not really interested in that.
Don't be suckered into this shit, that's all. Be conscious of what's going on, overcome your emotions. Because that's what she's playing on. IMO.
I know it's hard and you won't want to accept it, but this girl is toying with you because she knows she can. Once you take control, she can't do that any more. it doesn't rule out any future relationships with her, it just rules out you being taken for granted and played with.

I know that by a lot of people's standards this would be considered normal where "if you aren't exclusive then it's okay to fuck/date others." Also, it's not uncommon for guys/girls at that age to be desperate to want to play the field and not feel 'restricted'.

You haven't really elaborated on how all this makes you feel, but it's clear it makes you miserable. Personally, I have way too much dignity/self-respect and would've walked out on a girl like this even if I loved her. But that's me. Figure out how you want it and stand up for yourself, dude.

Thanks a lot guys! All your comments helped me out, and I started to focus more on gym and friends, it's better for me to have fun and do what I like (gym & firends) than not being able to sleep because I stress about her getting laid with someone else.

I said to her that I can't deal with this situation anymore, as it gets me way to stressed, and I hope that she finds someone that will treat her well (I guess she will leave him aswell).
At this point Im ignoring her, but will stay "friends" with her as we two go to the same class.

Once again thank you all, hope you guys have a great day!

Leave her. All that comes with this kind of bitch is sorrow and regret. Trust me, if you don't leave her now she will keep this up. And remember, once a cheater, always a cheater.