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Is sleeping with a 22 yr old man? She's like my best friend and I don't want her to get hurt, that guy has a reputation for being a player but she doesn't see it. He has cheated on her once already, but she took him back. Should I tell her mom?? I don't want her to get hurt.. Please help!
What the hell. She's fucking 15. What kind of question is this? And what kind of sick fuck would date her at such an age? Jesus christ. Your a horrible best friend/ family member. Tell someone.
That's harsh she obviously doesn't want to upset her cousin by being unloyal and snitching. But really I think you should try to make her see sense, then tell her that if she doesn't make the decision your going to have to tell someone, then if it comes to it just tell x
If its harsh, its harsh.
id rather be unloyal and snitch then let my 15 yr old cousin get taken advantage of. Just my opinion.
Umm.. maybe i needed to add more to this question, Yes i do care alot for my cousin (step cousin btw) her dad died when she wasnt even born.. so her mom has bought her up w/ basically no money. She didn't live in the US she jus came here 3 yrs ago & her mom thinks tht her lil girl is perfect, she doesnt believe nything anybody says about her daughter unless its something good. So if I am to tell her mom she wouldn't believe me , thats why I havent told her yet. she would only believe her daughter.. soo idk what to do /:
i agree you should call the cops now and have him throwen in jail where he belongs
No. You shouldn't tell her mother. You should tell the authorities. What the man is doing is against the law.
I said it's normal because girls at that age want a lot of attention. My sister was younger than that with someone older than that. You should get her help, but I'm not sure telling her mom is the best way. She'll probably freak out and never talk to you again. Ease into it and let her know that you're watching out for her and she should realize that he isn't the best thing for her. Hope it goes well <3
have u spoken to your cousin about it? you should tell her she is being a blind dumba**...tell her to leave him if she doesn't take your advice...start playin dirty and tell her mamma...she will hate your guts until she finds another douche and think he is the one.
Make sure she is protecting her self from getting pregnant or catching any std he picks up. It's almost impossible to talk a teenage girl out of a relationship with a adult male ( been there, done that had a kid and marriage with a 24 yr old when I was 18) if you push too hard about how wrong it is you'll just push her in to his arms . Be there for her when it all falls apart .
Yes; you should tell her mother. If she's your best friend then you should be more concerned about her safety than your friendship. Most likely, she will be mad at you for telling, but you did what was best for her, and that alone makes you a good friend. Do the right thing. If you know this guy can hurt her, do something about it. She is too young (and obviously ignorant) to understand it now, but in the future she will thank, whether she does it in person or not. And you will be thanking yourself for making the right decision instead of not letting yourself live it down for not telling on her when you had the chance.
She is a minor - if she loves this person so much, what she can do is wait till she is of legal age to continue this relationship to not get him in trouble.
Also this would be a perfect opportunity to see if he is in the game for love or something else.
If her 'Mom' is still caring (looking after) her, then yes tell her.
The law states that if you are aware of someone breaking the law and do not do anything about it, then you are aiding and helping this 22yo guy.
By the way 22yo guys are still very immature.
Although the age gap is 7yrs, I suspect he still has a child mind. The law states he is a ephebophile NOT pedo!
13 years or younger, Pedophilia.
11–14 year old, Hebephilia.
15–19 year old, Ephebophilia.
that guy sounds pathetic. sadly, I know too many guys who don't feel worthy of women their age hence they go for girls 5+ years younger than them. why don't you talk some sense into your friend
I take where you live she's not of legal age. The man she's dating is a hebephile. It's not normal at all. Must you even question whether or not to tell her "mommy"? I have a friend who's about 3-4 years younger than me and when she was in her early teens (I'm guessing) her parents let her date a man in his 20's. True there was parental consent, but it still isn't right... Go tell her momma and call the police. Many things can go wrong with this relationship.
Yep, tell everyone. Alert the national guard if you have to. When someone's well being is at stake, you can throw the niceties to the wind.
i don't think u should tell her mom then she'll hate u. ask someone from ur family 2 tell. she's 15 4 heven's sack. tell her if u dont believe me i'll show u. heres wat u do 4 proof:ask him ot on a date, tape wat he says. if he says yes let ur cousin here it. she'll hav 2 believe u then. good luck.
Not normal at all. 7 years wouldn't be a big difference if they were both grown, but she's only 15 so it's illegal. Plus you said he's known for being a player, and that makes it worse.
No, this is not normal! She's entirely too young to be dating and let alone a 22 year old. She will most likely get mad at you, but you do need to tell her mother...let her know what's going on in her daughter's life.
I am going to be extremely honest, and do not take it the wrong way. Women in general like to have drama in their lives so I am not surprised she took him back after cheating. She is not yet even a women, barely officially a teenager, so she is blinded and inexperienced, and may even be too immature to know what is good for her. No matter what you do or tell her, she will not see or accept. I suggest you tell her to tell her boyfriend to always wear a condom when cheating on her because I am pretty sure he will do it again, either with another young girl her age or not. This is coming from a guy. Any how, I feel the boyfriend should be in jail but I understand the relationship you have with your cousin so just remind her to tell him to wear a condom every time he cheats. When you keep telling her that, maybe she will think twice.
That's bad lol.
I would tell to be honest.
She is a minor, and he could go to jail. She should have waited, she knew/knows the consquiences (sp?) So.
Well just make sure she doesnt know you were the one that told her mom she would feel betrayed and you will loose her forever,she is only 15 she wont get how good of a freind you really are...
You should absolutely tell someone! It's bad enough that he's way too old for her and she's underage, and the fact that he's a player and has cheated on her makes the answer even more clear: Stop her immediately. It doesn't matter what she feels at this point, she is being very foolish.
I don't know if you've noticed but what's going on here is pedophilia. It is a psychiatric disorder and completely illegal. So do something about it.