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My girlfriend has 18 years, and i have 21, she has no appetite to have sex with me, if i'm lucky i will have sex 1 time a week...
And sometimes she does it because she feels obliged, and i don't like that...
Otherwise, i want it every day, i really love her...
Is it normal, with her age, she doesn't have appetite?
I'd be surprised if she did want to have sex with you more than that! You've got to understand, women are wired differently to men. Men are born to spread the seed and have a higher sexdrive. But as it stands, you sound like you've already settled into a routine with her - once a week and only then because she feels obliged. Routines are boring!
Men just need the word go and they'll have sex. Women need to have a whole day cuddling and being nice to them before it feels right. And being in a routine ain't going to win favours! Everyone's different, some people have lower sex drives, others more - but you'll definitely have to either spice up the relationship, back off and work on methods to keep your sex drive down, or just give her space. Do not push her. Sex isn't everything and if you love her you'll respect her.
Everyone ignore the first half of the above comment from everything before the sentence that began with the words "And being in a routine..." (side note grammar nazi moment: sentences don't start with "And" and the period before wasn't needed) it's the stereotypical norm and its a lie.
"..women are wired differently to men. Men are born to spread the seed and have a higher sexdrive."
Sure we're wired differently but its so subtle that it doesn't even matter. We're all generally the same, just humans with different personality types not from gender to gender but from person to person. If men are born to spread the seed then you can turn around and say the same thing about women, that they're born to take a seed and have a higher sex drive cause of it. You later contract yourself and prove my point when you said
"Everyone's different, some people have lower sex drives, others more.."
"Men just need the word go and they'll have sex. Women need to have a whole day cuddling and being nice to them before it feels right."
Not true, cause like you said before "Everyone's different, some people have lower sex drives, others more.." its comments like "Men just need the word go and they'll have sex. Women need to have a whole day cuddling and being nice to them before it feels right." that's the stereotypical brainwashing where people feel they have to live up to it to fit into their "gender roles", that kind of attitude is what created the ideas that if a girl moves to fast she's a slut and if a guy does it he's a pig, leaving sexually repressed people from both genders.
It should read:
"*Some people* just need the word go and they'll have sex. *Some people* need to have a whole day cuddling and being nice to them before it feels right... Everyone's different, some people have lower sex drives, others more.."
edit: example: read RandomPhantom(s) blunt but effective testimonial below.
It is not normal but it is admirable. Love is Love and sex is sex They have nothing to do with one another. If you love her respect her and do not push for sex
yh i agree wif bacaba ;) thats what my friend did wif her bf 2 c if he would stay wif hetr with out any sex but then she wantted it so bad she was begging him 4 it :P
show her you love her do stuf to make her feel happy and dont begg for sex.
she will give you but give her time and when she see's you dont realy care about sex and only about her she will give you.
some girls are insecure about guys, they think that the only thing the guys want from them is sex. and if you show her how much you love her for who she is she will know your the one she truely loves.
ya i agree pushing her to do something she doesnt want to do is bad. it could be many things,period,insecurity,it maybe even about your relationship or if she was just bored. :/
Some women are like this. While men's sexual appetite peaks during their early 20's, women's sexual appetite peaks during their late 30's.
While unfortunate, it's just the way it is sometimes.
If you want to have sex more often, try to find all the little things that turn her on, maybe then she'll be more willing. :)
Have you had a serious discussion with her about it?
Does she have a mental or emotional problem such as depression? Does she have any reason for refusing you other than that she simply doesn't feel like it?
Assuming that she doesn't, are you making an effort to turn her on (via foreplay such as fondling her, rubbing her genitalia, giving her oral)? It's not unusual for women to have a very low sex drive unless their partner makes an effort.
Hah, mine is totally the other way around...I'm 18, my bf is 21, and he never wants to have sex either!
I think you should talk to her about it, if you keep it going at this point, your going to be upset with your sex life.
Hope that helped.
-Cami :]
someone mentioned love and sex having nothing to do with each other? that is OH SO FALSE! If you love someone, wouldnt it be nice to be able to share that passion in the bedroom? Its the best thing life has to offer. Shes not horney or whatever..thats a joke dude! Dont go taking that! Speak to her because she will/should lose you if she doesnt provide willingly. Especially at 18! She shud be all over you!
p.s. she might be cheating on you/not love you. But hey, I know nothing
over half of women under 30 can't orgasm without oral stimulation.
try it maybe she'll like it?
while it is possible that she was assaulted in the past, that should have been brought up by now. Most sexually active females enjoy it often.So there is either something unusual about her or there is something she doesn't like in the way you have sex. You had better talk it over. It sounds as if this relationship is doomed
You people are idiots- or young. Not one of you even mentioned the possibility of her having been raped or molested as a child, even though the statistics in this country are something like 3 of 5 girls and 2 of 5 boys before the age of 18.... I was not, but my sister, brother, and many many friends were. All have had residual issues or 'different' sexual behavior [has no one watched Oprah?]. Some are promiscuous, more females tend to be gay [trust issues], some just do not naturally enjoy sex, even though they want to, wish they did, and love who they are with. Do you have the kind of relationship that she feels safe enough to open up to you with her deepest, darkest secrets and fears? Most women won't even tell their husbands their sexual fantasies... fear of being judged, fear of you telling someone, etc...
I take it back. Maybe you all are not stupid. Maybe he's just lousy in bed, and she feels it is not her job to teach him. I wouldn't bother until I got married [if we're both in it, he had BETTER know what do to, & why teach him so he can use it on someone else?]
Lesbian, maybe. Or she is cheating. Either way, find another girl who actually would not mind seeing your johnson everyday.
I disagree with the first comment. It's normal, it would also be normal if she were horny as hell.
You say they're is a lot of living between the ages of 18 and 21, that's true. But there is even more living to be had after that, a whole lot more! Teenagers have sex pushed in their faces by society, but it's not abnormal at all if your young girlfriend doesn't want to make that part of her life right now. You're still kids really, both of you. There's plenty of time for sex down the road.
Is she on a birth control pill? If so, then yes, it's normal as these pills interfere with a woman's natural hormones.
If she's not on the pill, I would start thinking more in depth about your relationship and whether or not it's meant to be. Not because sex is THE most important part of a relationship, but because it is AN important part. If her reason for not wanting to be intimate with you isn't biological, then surely something else is wrong. Maybe she is feeling bored, or is no longer as attracted to you. She's young. You're both young, for that matter. But there is a lot of living to do between the ages of 18 and 21.
Beat the fucking crap out of her until she fucks, that allways helped me.
not normal that basically means she doesnt like you enough to have sex with you thats what bf and gf are supposed to do