Is it normal that my 22 year old fiancee never wants to have sex?

I am a very sweet, pretty, sexual female that wants to feel that connection between two people who are so in love but my fiancee says he just doesn't think about and it's not at the top of his list of things to think about. I know he has had sexual intercourse with at least 250 women and have heard details about most of them. At first I liked hearing the stories but it began to bother me because we were no longer making love like we used to. I have ask him and at least 20 times he has told me that I am by far the best he has ever had and it's not me. He complains that he doesn't know what's wrong with him and maybe he should get help. We are now going on 6 weeks of no sex and I am going crazy!! I don't underhand why that's all he wanted before we got together but now he doesn't want to. Please give me some advice as to what I should do I'm so confused :(

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  • (:sweet:)

    250? Damn im suprised his dick didnt fall off from STDs eeww maybe hes being nice and doesnt want to infect u with his nastiness

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  • No, it's not normal for him to be so disinterested in sex, but it's also not uncommon.
    He could be depressed or even desensitized towards sex, but still love you more than anyone he's ever been with before.

    Just make sure you don't take it personally and keep encouraging him to get some help. Don't marry him until you two get this sorted out, or you may regret it.

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  • Lockets

    Why would you want to be with a guy who has had sex with 250 women. Aren't you just the 251st?
    I'd move on from him if I were you.

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  • apsketches

    I am the guy with the same issue. I didn't know what my problem was. I recently saw a doctor and found out I have a treatable thyroid disorder. Have him see a GP before therapy, he could have an STI, low testosterone or thyroid problem.

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  • wreckd

    250??????????? DAYYYUMMMM!

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  • Adrianna.(:

    Wtf? What's wrong with you people telling her she deserves to get aids don't fucking pretend that you don't like sex well that's if you can even get some!! Don't hate on her she was asking for advice not your smart-ass comment!! Get a life and grow the fuck up!!!

    And honey it's because he doesn't love you, it's probly because he doesn't want a relationship based off of sex or that y'all just have regular misionary sex, mix it up, have fun with it, do things diffrently, give him what he wants and most importantly talk about how you feel towards him have a open "godley" talkitive realationship!!! And remember that if you don't have Jesus in your realationship it will Not work out no matter how hard you try and no matter what you do!!! -good luck!(:

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  • rayst

    Wooo. Nooneisnormalo: calm down, the girl is right to wonder if it's normal! Six weeks!!!

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  • chewy

    oh really 250? bullshit but if he really does sleep with alot of women then good luck with all the stds that he might get if he is stupid good luck you are so desperate arent you?

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  • I-heart-u

    I'm guessing all that unprotected sex with those 250 women. Ended up getting him a sexual transmitted disease and he either doesn't want to tell you. Or that he doesn't want you to get it.

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  • webs

    This situation is not normal. That dude is either cheating on you, gay, or doesn't like your sex game. Not to sound mean, but a lot of women think that just because they have a pussy, that automatically means it's good pussy. That's not true ladies, be honest with yourselves. Just like a certain guys sex game could be lacking size, lacking stamina, or just plain boring to you, a certain female's sex game could be inadequite to a guy for one or several reasons.

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  • Flyfoot56

    He's banging everyone he can. You're just the last resort screw when he strikes out everywher else. dump him.

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  • fissionmailed

    You sound like you want sex immediately, if that's the case, find another penis to sink in your fish.
    Why the hell do you want sex so bad!? Wait til marriage.

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  • Adrianna.(:

    Oops, I meant it's not because he doesn't love you!!!

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  • sk1985

    maybe he has allready given u something is waiting on u to notice it or it to show itself and when it does and u say something he can call u a cheater and get the hell out of there with out the bullshit of marriage to u.....love is allgood but u might b the only one in it....????

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  • Catwheezle

    It's common to only be attracted to the new, the not-yet-had. Once something becomes "an attained goal" or "familiar territory", it no longer triggers the same neurochemicals of desire.

    Normal people take 3-12 months for this, in a good relationship. By the time the "initial attraction" neurochemicals fade, they're replaced with others: less intense, but longer lasting.

    Others lose the neurochems as soon as they've "got" you, whether "got" is "screwed" or "said yes at the altar". This is a big part of why so many marriages are sexless.

    People like that will often have many (250?) one night stands and brief flings, but few long relationships. Those relationships they do have will be punctuated by them meeting other potential partners and getting the "new thing" rush from them instead: it will be very hard for them to not stray.

    To me, I'd be sure to resolve this before marriage, or get out while you still can.

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  • shag776

    BBBBBBBBBBBBBBUUUUUUUUUUUUUULLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIITTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!????????????????

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  • cathy22

    just the fact that he would tell you something like that, wither it's true or not is weird.

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  • He probably has something contagious and he may care enough about you not to use you for sex and infect you.

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    • grahamsgirl

      if he cared about u...he would tell u he has an STD not just withhold sex

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  • joelsmo

    First of all he probably lying about the women he has slept with, I know many guys like that who I know for a fact have slept with 1 or 2 women in their lives and tell there wives that the were big womanizers. The problem with someone like this is there is obviously something wrong with him, he is not being fulfilled in some way sexually and he just doesn't want it anymore. The only other possibility, of course, is that he is getting it some place else. The only thing you can do is talk to him, try and make him do some sole searching and find out what is really bothering him. He does not want sex for a reason and there is no one here that can ever give you that information.

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  • Delvok

    Maybe you're bad in bed and it's embarrassing for him to demean himself by fucking you.

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    • chewy

      thats harsh

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx

    I think there is no way he could have had sex with 250 women unless he wasted a lot of money on prostitutes! What are you doing with such a manwhore anyway?

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    • webs

      I have slept with 427 women and I'm only 27yrs. old, and I will admit, I use to be a manwhore. I didn't pay any of those women for sex.

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      • juniperlei

        WOW! thats alot :O

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  • Stephanie_87

    He is banging everything that moves!

    Try giving him a blowjob right after he takes you in th azz. ;)

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  • grahamsgirl

    i bet he has herpes and already gave it to you and feels bad about it now. or maybe hes gettin it from somewhere else. or hes gay. basically what im trying to say is go find a fiance who wants to make sweeeeeeeet love to ur sexy sexual female body

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  • BoredGuy

    still struggling to get to 100 and he went with 250?! fck...

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  • forgotten111

    Nasty people

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  • NoOneIsNormalo_0

    Okay then. You're a slut. How come you can't go your life without sex? It's not air, dammit. If you always want some guy's part thrusting inside your part then you deserve AIDS, to get pregnant, and be raped for the rest of your life. Good day, you little sex toy you.

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  • randypete

    dump him go and have fun

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  • fullhouse

    may be he's gay..try asking him to go behind your's and watch..All the '250' story must be over compensating his feeling

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  • KeyboardSolo

    You're both liars. About a lot of things.

    And you probably have herpes.

    Sweet dreams.

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