Is it normal that most of my text buddies are married or have gfs?

I have a situation were my bf has a "buddy" like you. He doesn't know that I know about it. On behalf of all the wives and girlfriends who you are doing this to: Fuck off you fucking cunt!!! You have no idea what it feels like to be betrayed this way. It makes you feel horrible. And don't tell me that you would never cross the line. That is a fucking lie!!! Why do you think they confide in you? Because they want you to think that thier girlfriends treat them like shit so u will comfort them and then one thing leads to another and you fuck them. So yeah, I agree with the comment above: you are a fucken tease! You're a wolf in sheep clothing!! I hope the same thing happens to you!! Bitches like you are pieces of shit and get pleasure from destroying relationships!!!!!!! You hAve no respect for these women because like you say they flirt with you. If you had respect for them and yourself you would stop this slutty behavior!!!!! Go to hell you inconsiderate bitch!!!!

Americanhoney, anyone who uses the word bang as a sexuall reference is lower class than you claim I am. You have clearly never been in a similar situation. Your comments are so ridiculous. Unless you have something valid to say just shut your pretty little mouth. Have a good day!

And all women are smart and we know what we are doing. You can't play the innocent card all the time esp w something like this.

fucking tease

You're a booty call. Or someone they are trying to get a lay from it seem like.

amberinboston your original post was very vague and i was outraged that you would even have the nerve to ask if this was normal so my comments to you were out of anger and emotion (not the best time to respond). i beleive that after you have read what myself and other posters have posted, you have gotten your answer if this is normal or not. i think that in one of your responses you also answered your own question. it was the post were you went out with a married man while you believed he was separated. do you now see how easily men can lie to you? since you have been listening to their b.s stories you believe them and then one thing leads to another and next thing you know your out with a married man. these men do not see you as a support system or someone to confide in all they see you as is someone who will feel sorry for them and maybe end up in bed with you...eventually. that is all they want from you. i am sorry if i hurt your feelings in any way, but you have been in a similar situation so you must know what it feels like to be betrayed this way. do you not feel guilty that you may have something to do with the possible end of these relationships? and yes i know that it is not all your fault the men have a huge part in this too. either way i think that you should put and end to these texting buddies because nothing good will come from this. do you think any of the wives would be okay with what is going on? put yourself in our shoes and im sure that you would agree that its wrong. i am sorry that you feel lonely. we feel the same way. please do not continue this behavior. again, i am sorry if anything i said offended you. its not my intention to make anyone upset a lot of what i said was out of anger and disbelief. xoxo!

honestly,
if they have a gf or wife.
dont text them.
it just gets him and her thinking all kinds of things.

I'm not getting involved in anyones little fight.but I would like to say, without taking sides..that it doesn't matter if someone is beautiful, or how many tricks they do in bed. Sometimes nothing works.
Look at the most beautiful hollywood celebrities...
Halle berry,sandra bullock, christy brinkley, marilyn monroe, all these women have/had a hard time with men and were cheated on.
Also sexual gymnastics and skill doesn't keep a man. I. Know Plenty of people who tried every freaky thing there is to do, and the man still strayed. The sad fact about all our lives as women, as that we are vulnerable and at risk of any man cheating on us at any time.
If john edwards, bill cosby and al gore can cheat, what hope to we have?
Only a man who RUNS, not walks away, from temptation and truly loves God Or has an uttermost respect for vows/truth won't give in, and even then, sometimes those types stray too.
Honestly, ill never fully trust any man.
Nor will I agree to be a freak to please him.
If he wants to try certain things, he can pay a 2 dollar ho.
I'm sick and tired of selfish men.
And some of the men I've met, I'm glad I'm not their gfs or wives. I'm too good for them.
I rather be alone and lonely than with a jerk. Even though we were all made to share life and love and romance.

Of course I've never been in a similar situation, silly. My boyfriends have no need to stray; mainly because of my pretty little mouth - but also because I BANG them soooo good. You have a nice day, as well, and don't forget to check up on your man! :)

Man everybody on this post needs to chill out a little bit

Ok so what if you don't let them stick it in you. Those text buddies are building a better relationship with you than they are their own wives/gfs. Every relationships have ups/downs. If they go off and run to you every time they have a problem with their wife, you are destroying their relationship by not letting the couple talk it out themselves. If these guy friends where serious about the relationship they where in they would make their wife's their text buddies, not you. Of course it's really really easy to run and confide in a friend that will take your side than work it out with your girlfriend.

Xoxo29, I'm truly sorry you feel so upset and are going through so much emotional agony. Even though you were very rude and assuming towards me, I don't wish any ill will towards you or your life.
As one woman to another, I only wish you a good man, who will stand by you come what may, and be a good father to his child.
I am not out to hurt anyone or detroy anyones relationship.
I admit, I'm lonely and having text buddies fullfills my emotional needs. I just wonder why so many men who claim to be in relationships seek me out for friendship. I suppose I should stop the friendships and say, "hold up you have a gf or wife, talk to her" but I feel valued, and important when they share their lives with me, and sometimes, more often than not I actually help them out.
I've never allowed it to become inappropriate. Except for one time someone did infact lie to me and told me he was getting divorced, had proof his wife was cheating, and had just signed an apt lease. We went out a couple of times. (No sexual contact involved), then I found out later from someone who knew the couple well, he had lied to me the whole time. They even had a party that weekend at his house.
I do feel sometimes these men have alterior motives, but I like the attention and friendships.
And sometimes its confusing as to who I should friend and who I shouldn't. Just being honest.
But I never want to come between anyone..
There's always 2 sides to a story..unless of course someone is just a plain freak or maniac.
Thanks for all the opinions.
I wish to keep it civil with everyone.
Love to all.

Oh jeez, I wonder if the author of this story has read all of these comments.

I know my bf and just simply asking him won't work most guys deny any wrong doing. By collecting proof I mean that I need to know that there is something going on and by some of the messages I've heard and forwarded to myself for proof, there is something going on. I am now receiving his cell bill that shows all the calls and text/pic messages going between them at all hours of the day and night. So to answer your post no it's not Hs games I need to show him proof because if I don't he will just say that it's all in my head. And once I do confront him, which will be very soon, I will have all the info that need to prove to him that there is something going on and not that they are just friends.

Amberinboston were you the original poster of this story?

I was married for 8 years, during which time, I never flirted or cheated on my ex. We ended up divorced because of bad behavior on His Part. So I know very well, what it feels like to be on the receiving end of a rotten marriage/relationship.
I'm a single/divorced mother who has put myself through school, and risen above adveristy. So for anyone to assume they know me..they do not.

Why does everyone seem to like so much drama? Don't be with someone u can't trust, it's a waste of time and u just end up hurt. And to OP, find a single man to flirt with. You're asking for nothing but trouble any other way. Ollieo, right on!

But ollieo I think the poster knows what she is participating in is wrong even if she isn't flirting back and gas no intentions of doing so. There in lies the lack of respect she claims she has. It's both parties fault, husband/bf and her. However I do feel it is more of the mans responsibility bcuz he's the one in the actual relationship. I think it's dumb though to be posting something like this and to many women do. We all know it's wrong people. Don't do it. Pretty simple.

ThAnk you beautifullybroken! It's nice to know that people agree that what this person is doing is wrong. She admits that some of her buddies flirt with her. She should know that this is wrong. If she is as innocent as she claims to be she would put an end to the flirting. I'm sure she is not as stupid as she sounds so she should know what flirting leads to. She needs to put herself in our shoes and understand that these men are not talking to her just to vent but rather to see what they can get from her. I know that the men are partly to blame but as a woman she should know what it feels like and back off. Nothing good will come from this behavior, on both sides. Thank you to all who understand me and feel my pain! Xoxo!!!

I agree with xoxo29!!!! U are officially my hero! U rock!!

Thank you yayasaga and soccer2! And ollieo: the reason that I haven't question my guy about it is because we have a baby together and I need to look out for him and his happiness. I'm not going to be playing highschool games with our relationship just because he talks/texts some $2 hooker. I first need to have hard evidence before I confront him about it. K need to prove to him that I know and how I know. And I'm well on my way with gathering proof. He's not Going to fuck around on me and get away with it! And yes, most of the time when these women do this type of shit they are up to no good. They are evil snakes and all they want is the feeling of power when they finally get one of their "buddies" to stray!

Well obviously from the replies here, the wives/gfs aren't going to take it all too well. That doesn't mean you are up to shit necessarily.

But it does look like somethings going on to them, and they will believe its you. Notice how Xoxo tears a huge strip out of you, but she hasn't even questioned her guy about it. That is what you are playing with. Fire, no matter how unfair or uneven handed. They'll torch you and then wimper, cow & suck up to theirguys.

I believe you when you are saying that you are being friendly & haven't crossed a line. Your question: is it normal that so many of these guys want to be your buddy.? No. They are looking for something else, something they should either find or deal with within their marriage.

So tell them to get lost.

@xoxo29
I completely agree. fuckin bitches

^^ =)

Xoxo wasn't harsh and if she was it's just the harsh truth. I fully agree and to talk about respect in the original post was ridiculous. Go xoxo lol

They think the're not doing anything wrong--but they are. The best of both worlds...until the SO finds out!

I agree with the 2 posters above me...

Xoxo was harsh but I agree. It's not good at all

Well you aren't really saying what you say to them on your side. Right now it seems like you could be leading these guys on.

What's wrong with having guy friends? So they flirt... It's harmless. If you don't want it to be harmless then have at (though I don't recommend it). Looks like the situation is completely in your control. But seriously, so what? You get to flirt and be single and not risk losing them as friends.... Best of both worlds.

Xoxo29 I'll bang the hell out of your boyfriend simply because you're clearly a low class, wretched, foul mouthed little shrew who deserves that sort of thing to happen to them.