Is it normal that most modern parents do this?

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Is it normal that some people I know with kids vent and complain to me how stressful and mindnumbing it is to have them, then badger me and fiance about when we're gonna have some kids and why don't we want them? They just will not accept the answer! I could list all the valid reasons we don't them by the dozens and they still counter with "You'll change your mind", "You're being selfish, you'll regret it!". When they won't drop the subject I've been tempted to ask what if they regret their little "blessings" one day (already seems to be some resentment there). Just haven't worked up the nerve yet. Then some of them get borderline angry if I mention that we're planning [random activity], and say with an obvious tone of jelousy how they can't afford/have no time to do THAT anymore, PokedCondom needs [more baby crap]. Then comes the "so when are the kids gonna start coming??" I'm not dumbfounded by simple BC pill instructions and am working on a permanent fix, so never. I enjoy my peaceful life as is. Anyway.. Do they do this because misery loves company? Or are they just curious how many humans can be shat out of me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Saying its selfish is the stupidest thing to say. Personally I think lots of people have kids for selfish reasons. Personally I dont ever want kids and I think its almost cruel to bring another person into this fucked up world.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    How is not wanting kids being selfish? I would cuss them out!

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    • Queen^of^Spades
      11 years ago

      It's called hypocrisy, and it drives me crazy. i think ,(hypothetical situation) that not having kids when i am in a bad position will be better for both me and the kid.

      And yeah, if someone has kids because of parental pressure(it happens over here) and then keeps complaining about them..that's what i call selfishness.

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      • KeddersPrincess
        11 years ago

        Yeah; I agree.

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  • katyclo2006
    11 years ago

    Everyone who has children has mixed feelings about them, but most people, despite all the griping, believe the joy of having children far outweighs the annoyances of dealing with them every day. Unfortunately, this too often translates into a belief that everyone in a committed relationship should "join the party" and have some kids of their own.

    You and your partner should never have to justify your decision not to have children to anyone, especially not your friends. The decision is PERSONAL and you are not at all out of line wanting to keep it that way. I would suggest that next time one of your friends asks you about it you state simply and politely that it is a subject you would rather not discuss...and then don't. If your so-called friends can't take the hint then maybe they're not such great friends after all.

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  • Legion
    11 years ago

    ironic isnt it? they dont like having kids, but the moment someone mentions they wont have kids, suddenly those kids are blessings!

    funny, a minute ago they were a chore

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  • Sunnydayz
    11 years ago

    Being a kid myself it is annoying

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    It's normal for people to talk about their kids, but it's rude for people to react that way when you say you don't want any. It's pretty common, though. Everybody, especially women, is expected to want to have children.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    i like to jizz on parents

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