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With the steady rate of men being taken to the cleaners after the inevitable divorce are men finally learning their lesson and for-going marriage?
Are men realising that marriage is a loose / loose situation for them and a win / win for the women?
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I never understood the need for marriage. Why do you need a church or goverment to make your love official? Pointless.
I think you're right though. If a male and female were to divorce, the female would be the one that gets the benefit of it, especially if they have a child. Almost always it's the female that gets custody of the divorced couple even if the male loved the child just as much as the female. And, if the male is rich, the female can get half of what he owns. How is that at all fair?
It's completely understandable why males would prefer not to marry.
You get legal protections, benefits and tax breaks if you're married. If I had to file my taxes as a single person, I wouldn't get shit back, thanks to marriage I get roughly $10,000 a year back in taxes. I'll take a free $10,000 a year to put up with my husband. There's a million little reasons why marriage is good.
There's ways to protect yourself, such as a pre-nup and knowing the laws of your state (some states are 'community property' states, that may be something you'd definitely want to avoid), knowing how to keep your property protected, don't have kids...I mean, you're fucked anyway if you have a kid with someone, married or not, you still have to support it, there's still custody issues.
There's also issues such as providing for your loved ones if something were to happen to you, or them. If you're not married, you can't take full advantage of certain benefits.
If the male is rich he might be able to tolerate being "halved" its the working class that really get screwed. Every man rich or poor is "halved" in a divorce, so if you are a working class man divorce will send you to the poor house literally or jail if you can't pay.
Well I usually try to limit my trolling during the day, and find one lucky post to give a serious answer for. This is today's winner.
Speaking as a single guy, who most certainly could be married if he really wanted to and has seen his friends marry and some divorce. I can honestly and truthfully answer this question as such.
Every single guy I know is happier then every married guy I know, not always by much, but at least they have less stress. And every married woman I know is FAR more happier then every single woman I know.
I will list it in descending order of happiest to least happy,
1. Married Women
2. Single Guys
Married Guys and Single Women are harder to list, sometimes married guys are 3 and sometimes single women are 4. But the evidence is clear. Marriage benefits women FAR more then it does men.
Speaking as a bisexual male, I can't ever imagine getting married. I would much rather live with 3 or 4 other roommates, also bisexual. I also think that marriage is harmful to children, "It takes a village", etc. Also, I don't like that I was raised by only two people. I don't like the $10,000 incentive the government puts on marriage, and that is really, really unfair to anyone except the "normal" family (Mom, dad, kids).
Marriage is a merger of more than love. Economic and social stability make a big commitment harder to make. How can you start a life if you can't find a job or house to raise your family in. Plus divorce rate is high so we are more selective, all in all is we have options so right now is not the ht time.
Marriage brings responsibilities if both genders understand and live with understanding they are the happiest people i think. And one should not run away from responsibilities
In my experience, the only married couples who stay together are Christian ones, and I believe that is only because they've been made to believe that divorce should be avoided.
I'm female and honestly think marriage is a bad thing.
Sure, you allegedly get more legal rights (and aren't morally ostracised).... but marriage is nothing more than a religious ceremony forcing two people to prove that they "love" each other for the government.
Even if both partners are atheist, they're still effectively bowing to religion if they marry.
Id have to say, if its a lose lose situation its the guys fault for being in that situation. That being said, marriage is bullshit its where two of the things I don't agree on, government and church, say your in love. Its bull. But since I love my girlfriend so much and now that it means the world for her to have a dream wedding, I'm going to do it. Its about not being selfish and compromising, she gets her wedding, and I get a happy girlfriend. There's a rule of life for men, give woman what they want and you will live happy, don't and you will be single. Don't get me wrong I envy the single guys, I remember the days, no head aches, no stress, do whatever you want. But when you find someone and you have a ggreat connection, then you want to do anything to make that person happpy and in return you will be happy and if not then you should not be with that person
I know right, Mando?
Besides. Love is a paper and a ring, not a commitment.
Studies of American society show that women live a bit longer than men yet those same studies reveal that married women die sooner than unmarried women. Married men tend to live a bit longer than unmarried men. Men that cheat, beat and otherwise humiliate their wives deserve to get taken to the cleaners. CA laws on marriage and divorce definitely give women married to wealthy men huge advantages when the marriage ends.
I'm a man. I am not wealthy and I'm never getting married. More power to the women that get their fairy tale wedding and all that jazz. More power to the men that find their dream woman soul mate and stay happily married 60-years. I've got nothing against them at all but I know that I am not cut out for marriage.
I am really not sure how much faith I have in marriage. Now days, most marriages end in divorce anyways. My parent's were two of the happiest married people you would have ever known, and they got divorced. Maybe some lucky girl will come along one day and change my mind and make me a very happy man, but until then I am uncertain about marriage.
Marriage isn't a lose-lose situation for most men. If you don't get married too quickly, and are sensible about it (consider a pre-nup) there is very little danger. Men and women need to wise-up to an equal degree IMO.