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My mom said infront of everyone in the house that my sister is the most religious one and not me? Its just that she notices her more then me. (because i think shes her favorite. I think im just here for labor lol) I shouldn't let someone else judge my level of involvment in religion; that's Gods job. But it hurt pretty bad to hear that. Is this normal?
Personally, I'd take that as a compliment, but I can understand your issue if religion is important to your life. It's bad policy on your mom's part. Parents shouldn't overtly show favoritism to any child over another. It doesn't help the one being favored, and it damages the other's self-esteem.
If you're religion is important to you, it's normal to be hurt when someone, especially someone as influential to you as a parent, downplays your commitment. Honestly, she shouldn't be comparing you to your sister like that at all.
She has a right to think that shes more involved then I am but it doesnt make it right to announce it to everyone because she didn't take into concideration the feelings of others. She also came into my room to talk to me about the whole ordeal after it all happened because she could tell I was pissed off pretty bad. But then she told me that it only seems like it from her perspective. That made it better until she said that she thinks that my future decisions about being in a program at my church are only based on how much "fun" id have. So now i know she doesn't think I take it seriously. After that i just turned into the most defensive person in the world; arguing with her about it until I actually told her to go away because I couldn't handle it anymore.
Even though I don't know exactly how she said it, I would say, it is understandable, that you feel hurt.
From what you describe, I can't tell if it was said with a loud voice and an intention to make everyone know that she felt that your sister is more religious than you; or if it was said as a natural part of a conversation.
If the first is true, that would seem like a weird thing to, and the criticizing nature make it hurtful.
If the second is true, keep in mind, that a your mom is also a person, and, as a person, has perceptions of things. It may seem to her that your sister is more religious, simply because she seems to be more religious. In the same way, some person at your church may have some perception of who seems more religious of the two of you, if you ask them.
Maybe, it would have been smarter for her not to have said, but she may have just voiced her perception of things.
Also, make sure to judge yourself by other things than your degree of religiousness.
Your mom sounds like a classic nutjob.
Would love to walk in on her cooking dinner wearing a "Lucifer shall guide me" T-shirt sippin' a cold beer.
Burp her in the face, fart on her too.. Like Terrance & Phillip would have done it.
I'm not religious, so honestly I can't see the problem here at all but I can guess that being told a sibling is better at something than you always hurts.
I can see how that would have hurt you. Your mother shouldn't compare her kids. I know how this is, my mother favoured my brother. What you have to do is ignore it and don't let it get to you. I'm sure it doesn't mean she loves you any less, but that was a pretty uncalledfor thing to do.
I've got some old pentacles, herbs, incense and crystals if you would like to show how much more spiritual you are than your sister.