Is it normal that it hasn't been fixed?

52% Normal
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Okay me and my boyfriend have admitted we need to go to couples councling.I have looked up places and told him where we need to go.He said that he wants to find one online because he works a lot and said if we found one online it would be easier.He never looked it up.We continue to keep having the same issues.I mention it again and he says he is really out of it and I am picking the wrong time to talk about it.He says this everytime I mention it or he says what do you want me to do about it? Or he says there's nothing I can do about it right now.The main reason the problems have arrived in our relationship is because he was dishonest with me so that created trust issues.I am getting the impression he doesn't care about our issues and doesn't want to fix it.He get's upset with me because he says it's been a year since the situation happened and I should be over it by now.Then he turns around and says he loves me and we will fix this.And we are back to not fixing anything.I am feeling like giving up!Is this normal?

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52% Normal
Based on 42 votes (22 yes)
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  • Layla32
    12 years ago

    I am aware if we go to counciling my behavior will be looked at too.I just thought since me and my boyfriend are a couple and we are trying to make things work that there should be a team effort.

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  • Layla32
    12 years ago

    ELB have you ever thought that I am really upset and I am not thinking about periods at the end of sentences or spacing and all that.Maybe you should be an English teacher because you did not give any advice to my problem.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    Simple - go to counseling without him.

    You're not the first person to need counseling with a reluctant partner.

    "been a year since the situation happened and I should be over it by now."
    Actually - he DOES have a valid point on this.

    It sounds like he cheated on you. And I'm against that but... if he stopped then how long does he have to pay for the mistake?

    You cannot hold this over his head forever. Especially if it's something you bring up every time you fight. Eventually you HAVE to drop it.

    And this is something a good counselor will tell you too - Remember, counseling isn't just about his behavior but about yours too. Including when to let things drop.

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  • Infxmous
    12 years ago

    He clearly has no intention to go to councelling and just says that so you get off his back. From similar experience people like that dont see why its a big deal to you and they will nver change their views about it, so unless you can bear to live the rest of your life this way you should just leave and find someone who deserves you..

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Men don't feel the need to talk out their issues. He has put it behind him and can't understand why you haven't. He's probably bored with the fact that you keep bringing it up. In truth, he has no intention to go to any counseilling. It's up to you what you do now.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    On a totally different note, you need to put a space after a period, before starting a new sentence.

    For example: After I finish writing this sentence, I'll put a space before starting a new one. That might make people take my relationship drama a little more seriously.

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