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I have lived in the U.S for four years and not had one new friend. I have tried to make friends but it's not working out. The women around me seems to dislike me for no reason. Before I move here I had a lot of friends it was easy for me.
I'm sorry. I would like to give you advice but think that my advice would depend on your age.
America is a hard, cold place to live. A lot of people are very judgmental towards each other, and most of all, people from outside of America. Which is sad seeing as how we all live on the same floating ball and are stuck here, we might as well get along. But not everyone sees it like that. I would suggest trying to find other people who have emigrated to America and try meeting people that way. Btw, I'm white and was born and raised in America, but not all people are as open minded as I am. Even more ironic is that I was born and raised in the south, also known as prejudice central haha.
Awe, it sound's like you've gotten caught up with the wrong people, or the wrong people are surrounding you, because if you were in my presence I would welcome you to be my friend with open arms.
Some people can come across as being stand-offish, when in reality they're just waiting on you. Maybe you could invite them to hang out with you one day, or hang at your house or something..
When you said that the women don't seem to like you, maybe they're just jealous of you for some reason?
When I try to make friends, I normally just try to make conversation with them, maybe compliment them, then after a while of this... I might say, hey, we should hang sometime. Then sometimes exchange numbers. One thing will lead to the next.
In your position, I think I would let them know beforehand, "Hey... I'm sorta new to this country. I mean, I've been here for 4 years now, but I still feel like I don't really know anybody...
you wanna exchange numbers, so we can talk more? I'm not trying to come off as a creeper or anything... haha..I just thought you might wanna hang sometime.." I don't know. Something like that. Just watch who you do it to. I mean, of course try and get yourself in a group setting or somethin, so you can mingle a bit first.
Don't give up! If the women around you aren't very friendly, there are many people out there who are. Don't let their bad attitudes discourage you from trying.
Just be yourself and don't worry about what people think. Eventually, you'll meet people that accept you.