Is it normal that im terrified ill be bad at intimacy?

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I haven't been in a relationship for 2 and a half years, but have now met someone new. I met them online and im going to meet them for the first time in 2 weeks. The thing is im terrified ill be bad at everything. Kissing, sex, anything physical. I was very confident in my "abilities" before, but its been so long I feel ive forgotten everything. Really worried ill make a fool of myself or something. As its getting closer im thinking about it all the time. I just want to impress her. is it normal to be so terrified? Im in my 20s and a guy. Any advice would be appreciated too

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Simmer down now! You just met this person, so what's the rush? Take your time; chill out and be yourself.

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  • dman111
    9 years ago

    Don't worry about what pleases women in general just worry about the one girl your going to meet because they are all different ...

    The kiss is about the most important thing out there so make sure your shit is up to par there because a kiss will dictate the rest ...

    Sexually buddy it would take 6 million women 1 million doctors and a damn genuis to know what they want they are all different...

    See men were simple .. Is it wet ok it's gonna be awesome but women aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa man it is like the mystery of Atlantis for crying out loud..

    Some women like it rough some enjoy love making some enjoy foreplay some will cum 10 times some will only cum with oral and some will only cum by themslves Men who think they can make any women cum are just idiots and to full of themselves... Orgasim are 50% physical and 50% mental and in some cases 100% Mystery

    Some like to be kissed like it's true love and some wanna be kissed like your about to beat them afterwards...

    Take your time get to know a little about each other NOT to much because once you get into the best friend zone you never get out

    Then once the ice has been broken and you become intimiate ASK what she likes .. Not me or any other women is this world can tell you what this women will enjoy ...

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  • finalscore121
    9 years ago

    Some great advice, thanks. I think I am putting too much emphasise on the physical side of things when I think about it

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    If you want to be a good lover, you need to know what pleases a woman. If you knew that before, then you know that now. If you didn't, then you need to learn.
    But getting all worried and upset about it will only insure that things will not go well, not improve a damn thing.
    Just go about your business as you always have and if things don't go too well, try again, and again, and again. Sooner or later, if you are a giver, not a taker, it will be fine.

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  • Crazy-guy
    9 years ago

    just imagine your first time... Yo just have to go for it whatever will happen is an unexpected event just improvise...

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  • libby.larsen
    9 years ago

    If you were my boyfriend, I would want you to fuck me. All the nicey nice shit could happen later on in the relationship.

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