Ask Your Question today
We have been broken up for a few months and i thought i was over him i even have a new boyfriend now but these feelings have been coming back. We went out for almost a year and he was my first love. I messaged him recently and he says hes moved on. It hurts and i dont know what to do.
Honey child, what you're feeling is normal, especially if it's about that first love. I know it's cliché to say, "time heals all wounds", but you will most likely feel better in time. Do yourself a huge favor and refrain from contacting your ex. The more you try to contact him, makeup or be friends the worse it will hurt...trust me. I know you don't want to do it but you have to let your ex go.
However, moving on doesn't necessarily mean going on the rebound. Although it would most likely be difficult, it would be best for you to get completely over your broken heart from this first relationship before entering a new one. I suspect that boyfriend #2 is a surrogate, a replacement to pacify your feelings of loss both emotionally and sexually perhaps. This dynamic is unfair and objectifying to this new guy.
I would highly recommend you going it alone until you get yourself together and can be fully present for a new beau.
men move on faster and better than we do we women are emotional creatures by nature unfortunately, too see that he has moved on, you actual don't want him but the thought of him not thinking about you the way your thinking about him hurts. I will say this if you don't move on your being selfish let your new guy know he was a rebound and give him the choice if he wants to stay in this crazy relationship with you still wanting to be with your ex, but at least give him the choice, because in all actuality he could be spending quality time with someone who loves him whole heartedly, instead of his woman secretly feeling love for a man that had blatantly moved on and made that known to you. As a woman your wrong, so now what will you do about it is the question darlin...
Oh sweetheart, I'm still in love with my first love we were together two years he got me a ring and we've been broken up almost a year, I still miss him, it still hurts and it still will hurt you'll never forget your first love it will always linger and hurt, but it wasn't meant to be if you guys aren't still together. Please try and stay positive even though I know that sounds impossible. Don't try and be friends I tried with my ex and he refused but I'm glad, I knew he got a girlfriend not too long after and I'm glad I didn't know more because It would have eaten away at me either way not having him did. But it's okay think about what fun adventures you can make all on your own with new people. Besides we (I'm assuming your around my age) are probably too young to lock down on love without even hardly experiencing life.
I think you should end things with the guy you're with, it's not really fair to him if you're in love with someone else.
Idk if you can't be with your ex maybe you can be friends?
i dont think alot of people can deal with just being friends. Like the girl that last broke it off with me all but shunned me after i gracefully accepted it be to hard and awkward for her to continue to see each other. and i said that was oky, i still like to be friends.
but i dont think that was the reaction she wanted. she needed me to react badly to help her move one and i did, and made her feel worse so she hide cause to moved on she could talk to me. which is lame, but meh whateves